sderenzi Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I'm 27 years old, I am single and have almost never dated. I fear dating because it makes little sense to me now since I'm likely never going to get laid. Instead what dating means to me is that I'll just end up being so weak I'll take what I can get instead of knowing whether or not I like someone. That's the cycle and the curse for a virgin. My question really is to anyone (including Tony whom has given me warnings for silly stuff) what your best advice would be to a virgin on how he / she can get some. The main point to remember is this, I have never dated, not once, and I have no idea how anyone does. I have no friends and basically a boring life, despite that do you still think I could get some? I highly doubt there's anyone that would be able to help us virgins. The better questions are: 1. Isn't it improbable that a 27 year old no matter how ugly would still be a virgin? 2. Why has nobody hit on this 27 year old even when they are somewhat decent looking? 3. Wouldn't random chance dictate I at least had some friends (other than those online?) We also have some more important issues to address, namely these: 4. What reasons would you think of that someone would be a virgin @ age 27, list them and reasons why. 5. Are you a virgin and why are you, in your own words / opinion. 6. How can others around me get laid while I get none. I'd also like to hear any other thoughts you have on this issue.
tomwiz Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 1. Isn't it improbable that a 27 year old no matter how ugly would still be a virgin? Maybe improbable, are you setting your sights to high for the most part 7 dates 7s 2. Why has nobody hit on this 27 year old even when they are somewhat decent looking? Because most of the time, men make the first move, if you don't you're getting left in the dust by those guys who are more brazen than you. 3. Wouldn't random chance dictate I at least had some friends (other than those online?) No, its not like you randomly get friends, you earn them. Try joining a club of some sort, finding friends at work, nobody is goign to do this for you, certainly not random chance. Bottom line, get off the computer and live life. 4. What reasons would you think of that someone would be a virgin @ age 27, list them and reasons why. I would say for the most part it would be the fact would primarly be related to lack of social skills. The best way to go about this would be to get out there..start out by getting some friends, join a club, etc. Maybe join a dating website, however avoid sounding desperate. 5. Are you a virgin and why are you, in your own words / opinion. N/a 6. How can others around me get laid while I get none. Because they take chances, are willing to fail, interact socially, etc. Sorry if this post sounded harsh, however you asked for honest responses, your post seems to have a "the world owes me" feel to it. The fact of the matter is no one owes you anything and its up to you to make it better. Best of luck I'd also like to hear any other thoughts you have on this issue.
EricOnTheWeb Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Wow...are you me?..lol I'm in the same boat buddy, but we need to get comfortable with ourselves before we can bring anyone else into the scene. Otherwise it will not work, dating or getting laid. You sound very insecure with yourself, I know what it feels like, and you need to work on that before anything. Do you feel that you are too ugly or something?.... My suggestion is to work on your self image, hold your head up high, do things that make you feel good, and be confident with yourself. Yes it sounds difficult, and it is, but you need to take charge of this, and then when you least expect it, you will get laid. Thats what the peeps here have told me, and I'm in the proccess of working out my insecurities... you need to do the same.
Quinch Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 As tomwiz said, you need to get out, join a group, join a class and meet real people. Some of these people will be female. Some of these females will be single. One of these single females will like you. You will get talking to them. You will become more confident. They will like you enough to sleep with you. The more people you meet, the sooner it will happen.
Lovegod Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 2. Why has nobody hit on this 27 year old even when they are somewhat decent looking? Because you don't have an attractive personality. That's not to say that you're an a55hole, but it just means that you're not interesting or sexual. You know how women are always giving that stupid-ass advice to date someone because she has a nice personality? It's because that's what WOMEN primarly find attractive in men. Men find looks primarly attractive in women. If you become an outgoing, exciting, and sexual guy, you will attract women. When I mean sexual, I don't mean taking your wiener out of your pants, but demonstrating that you're not afraid of your desire for the opposite sex. Touching women non-sexually is a good way to demonstrate this. 4. What reasons would you think of that someone would be a virgin @ age 27 Because he never made an effort to date women nor have sex with them. If I were you, I'd accept the fact that you're a virgin and even be proud of it. You don't have any fatherless kids running around, you don't have any diseases, so you're safe! Being comfortable with your sexual status will actually help you get laid. If your V card doesn't bother YOU, it won't bother the woman you lose your virginity to either.
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