JoeBloggs Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Ok, I met my wife on the internet about 18 months ago. She was interstate but after a few trips backwards and forwards I finally decided to uproot and move into her place. We've been married for a few months now. While this was going I did have issues with porn (may as well be honest) which I believe to be somewhat of a self destructive act, since lets face it, I haven't felt that good about myself (expect for my wife and her son) in a fair time, few years at least. This dated back to well before I met my wife... so is not a new issue. I finally got cought out a few months back and whilst I have been able to straighten up and reform, my wife still struggles with what happened and more importantly -why. This has been going backwards and forwards for quite some time, we have good patches but then it may just turn sour again a few days later. It's come to the point where my wife has decided she doesn't want to deal with it, or me, any more. I do love her a great deal and do want this, but I don't know if it's time to let it go There have been threats of this previously but my gut tells me this time is more than a threat. Obviously I have tried talking to my wife about what has happened, reassured her it wasn't because of anything I wasn't getting from her (which is true) but she just can't get her head around things. What do I do? Do I just let her walk, or is there some path I can take to try and salvage this?? Please help me!
chall24503 Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Ok, I met my wife on the internet about 18 months ago. She was interstate but after a few trips backwards and forwards I finally decided to uproot and move into her place. We've been married for a few months now. While this was going I did have issues with porn (may as well be honest) which I believe to be somewhat of a self destructive act, since lets face it, I haven't felt that good about myself (expect for my wife and her son) in a fair time, few years at least. This dated back to well before I met my wife... so is not a new issue. I finally got cought out a few months back and whilst I have been able to straighten up and reform, my wife still struggles with what happened and more importantly -why. This has been going backwards and forwards for quite some time, we have good patches but then it may just turn sour again a few days later. It's come to the point where my wife has decided she doesn't want to deal with it, or me, any more. I do love her a great deal and do want this, but I don't know if it's time to let it go There have been threats of this previously but my gut tells me this time is more than a threat. Obviously I have tried talking to my wife about what has happened, reassured her it wasn't because of anything I wasn't getting from her (which is true) but she just can't get her head around things. What do I do? Do I just let her walk, or is there some path I can take to try and salvage this?? Please help me! Everyone makes mistakes... however you admit you have an issue, did you seek help to show her you want to fix? Sounds like you need to seek help and be true in the marriage.
sedgwick Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Sometimes I think I'm the only woman in the world who likes porn and expects my partner to look at it! I really think it's just human nature. Have you ever invited her to look at it with you? Maybe if you included her in the hobby from time to time, she'd actually find she liked it! Just an idea...it may be more about feeling included than feeling that something you're doing is "wrong" or that it means you don't still want her.
Author JoeBloggs Posted November 24, 2007 Author Posted November 24, 2007 Nah she has no interest in getting involved, we've been down that path and it was no help. Another part of the problem was the fact i did lie somewhat to hide the issue at the time I've been an ass.... and I deserve what's coming to me really... but doesn't mean I have to like it
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