sumdude Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 OK so I'm in a strange spot. I'm pretty recently divorced from an 8 year relationship, separated from my ex 10 months. Ironicall I 've started seeing an ex girlfreind from before ... we dated for a month or so 8 yrs ago and she dropped me unceremoniously, no biggie. She was the last GF before my XW. Anyhoo we still hang with the same crowd and have been distant freinds all this time. Well, just so happens we're both single and we're hanging out at the same places. We go out and ... well things happen. Thing is.. I had kind of a difficult time with getting into it. Guess it was my subconscious after 8 yrs with the same person. They couldn't be more different physically, my ex was 5' and petite and this woman is 5' 10" and a bit big. Well... just venting really, maybe this is just an FWB thing for now since I'm just not getting that 'it' feeling.. who knows. It's all confusing out here in single land again.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Do you have a question? If you compare everyone to your X than you will always be miserable. (You are seeking something that you no longer want or wants you). Until you can see people for who they are, you will be miserable. Move on.
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 since I'm just not getting that 'it' feeling.. who knows. It's all confusing out here in single land again. I know exactly how you feel and yes, it's a whole 'nother ballgame in single land. What do you ultimately want and are you feeling strong enough to be vulnerable again?
Author sumdude Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 Do you have a question? If you compare everyone to your X than you will always be miserable. (You are seeking something that you no longer want or wants you). Until you can see people for who they are, you will be miserable. Move on. I agree, it was just something that happened unconsciously. After a long relationship there are some bumps to get past. Some say there's a whole year of firsts.. the first x-mas without them, birthday, the first sexual experience etc etc. I haven't dated in almost 10 years so it's like new territory for me and even before that didn't date much. I guess the question would be what have others experienced and how have they helped themselves get past it?
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