Lady_Bug Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I'm getting to know a wonderful man across 3900 miles separated by an ocean. We have met and decided to continue communication by email because the time difference makes it hard for us to phone. He was supposed to come out to see me again in October on his business trip but that trip got pushed back to January. To make up for my disappointment, he's flying me to meet him midpoint between our distance in December. As much as I want to see him, I am also bothered by something that I recently discovered. A few weeks after we made our plans, he had also made plans or suggested to another woman to meet up at the same place that we are supposed to meet except he'll fly there one week earlier. How I found out is irrelevant and we haven't talked about dating exclusively so he hasn't violated any trust. However, I feel disrespected that he would even consider going to meet another woman before he meets me and in the same place that he's taking me to. I don't know what to do. I like him a lot, we're compatible and comfortable around each other. He tells me he misses me and that he can't wait to see me. On the other hand, I wonder if he's just saying all these to throw me off and not to suspect anything. I want to discuss with him about this but I don't want to come across as accusing or not trusting.
Elyssa Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 How long have you been involved with this man? If you haven't had any talks regarding exclusivity, I don't think you should be upset that he is seeing other women. I do think it's pretty tacky that he's planning on meeting another woman before you in the same place, though. How did you find out regarding this other woman? Are you sure they're romantically involved? If it's something you found out casually that someone else could know as well without digging too much, I would ask him about it and tell him that you don't feel comfortable with it. This might be a good time to bring up the exclusivity subject as well. -E
Aussie65 Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 The joys of internet dating! Well I would feel like I was at the meat works...I know that you have said your not in a relationship but he is keeping his options open and seeing how all pans out with I would say the first lady and possibly if that doesnt he can see you a week later. I have seen this many times before...I don't think I would like to be in your position either....what if they do hit it off?Internet dating is too complicated for me.
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