marrty24 Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 So I've dated this woman a few times and both of us seem to have a good time together. We laugh, joke around, flirt, etc. all the signs of a good date. The last time we were together was a week ago at my place. We just hung out, made ice cream sundaes and watched movies. By the end of the evening we were holding hands and she was laying on my shoulder. Then when she left we kissed goodnight and everything seemed very good. We even agreed to get together this past weekend. I've called her a couple times since and she has not returned my calls. First of all she doesn't usually answer her phone to begin with but she usually call me back that day or the next, but this time I haven't heard anything. Then yesterday I saw her at the gym, she was on the treadmil talking on her phone so I just walked by and said hi, and she smiled and said hi back. I'm pretty confused with this woman because it seemed like she was in to me and now it doesn't, so I don't know where to go from here. My assesment of the situation is she is either really busy (she did have a job interview on Friday) or she is seeing another guy. But I still don't think a call back is too much to ask for. Any other assesments/Advice would be much appreciated.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 A call back is not too much to ask for. Maybe she thought the chemistry wasn't there and was being pleasant to you at the gym. If she wanted to date you, you would have gotten a call back. Sorry, but that's my take on it. Dust yourself off and try with someone else.
birdie Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 it's irrelevant whether she is into you or not. she has no manners so I think you should definitely give up this one. there are a lot of decent people out there
Author marrty24 Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 I think you're right! If she wants to talk or see me she knows how to get ahold of me. Just don't understand because we did have a lot of fun together. Maybe I'm not supposed to understand so I'll just stop trying. Thanks for the advice.
birdie Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 some people like the attention, she is not as nice as you think. glad you are cool.
Not_Juliet Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I think she likes you and knows there's something there, but it sounds like she's into someone else. Unfortunately for you, this leaves you hanging. Don't let her do that to you, it's not fair to you and could potentially make things worse if you wait for her. You sound like a nice guy, don't let her hurt you!
Author marrty24 Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 I'm not hurt, just frustrated becasue of how things were going very well, and then all of the sudden there's nothing. My best friend said the same thing about how he thinks there is someone else, possible somone she's known longer than me so I get the short end of the stick. I don't plan on waiting for her, she knows how to get ahold me.
Ruthieo01 Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Take it as her doing you a favor, if she is just doing it for the attention, just think of what it is going to be like if you get into a relationship. Plus, you don't want to convince anyone to be with you or spend time with you. Someone will come along that has the same feelings you do, and you won't have to wonder if she is busy, or not interested or anything. It will all fall into place.
Phateless Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I think you're right! If she wants to talk or see me she knows how to get ahold of me. Just don't understand because we did have a lot of fun together. Maybe I'm not supposed to understand so I'll just stop trying. Thanks for the advice. I think this is the right attitude. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.
Yamaha Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Weither she is into you should not even be on your radar as she spoiled her chance by being on the fence. There are to many girls who would want to date you to spend your time wondering why she is standoffish.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Weither she is into you should not even be on your radar as she spoiled her chance by being on the fence. There are to many girls who would want to date you to spend your time wondering why she is standoffish. How do you know this? I agree that she's not interested so bag the idea of her, but to encourage someone to think that the world is open for his enjoyment is only allowing a big letdown.
Author marrty24 Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 So this woman called me back yesterday while I was at the gym, and it turns out she was on her way to the gym when she called. So I was just about leaving the gym and we made eye contact as I was walking by. She imediately took her earphone out of her ear like she wanted me to come over and talk so I did. She mentioned how she had just called me before she came to the gym and how that I should let her know if I was going to be around tonight and maybe we could meet up. So then I ask her what she was doing last night and she said she did not have anything going on. So as I'm about to walk away I say well then call me when you get out the gym, and she agrees and then I leave. Needless to say she doesn't call, just as I expected. Pretty much I'm as confused as before. I wasn't going to talk to her, I was just going to smile and say hi from across the room, but when she took off her earphones I took that as an invitation. Then she sounds like she wants to see me but doesn't call like she said she would. I guess I'm going to just stay on the same path i was, if she calls then fine but otherwise I'm not going out of my way for this girl.
Phateless Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 So this woman called me back yesterday while I was at the gym, and it turns out she was on her way to the gym when she called. So I was just about leaving the gym and we made eye contact as I was walking by. She imediately took her earphone out of her ear like she wanted me to come over and talk so I did. She mentioned how she had just called me before she came to the gym and how that I should let her know if I was going to be around tonight and maybe we could meet up. So then I ask her what she was doing last night and she said she did not have anything going on. So as I'm about to walk away I say well then call me when you get out the gym, and she agrees and then I leave. Needless to say she doesn't call, just as I expected. Pretty much I'm as confused as before. I wasn't going to talk to her, I was just going to smile and say hi from across the room, but when she took off her earphones I took that as an invitation. Then she sounds like she wants to see me but doesn't call like she said she would. I guess I'm going to just stay on the same path i was, if she calls then fine but otherwise I'm not going out of my way for this girl. I met a girl like that. Every time we run into each other she's flirty and tells me over and over to call her and we'll hang out, but if I call she never comes through. I realized after a while that she's just flaky and to not worry about it. There are plenty of girls who won't pull these games, so why waste time on this one?
Author marrty24 Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 I met a girl like that. Every time we run into each other she's flirty and tells me over and over to call her and we'll hang out, but if I call she never comes through. I realized after a while that she's just flaky and to not worry about it. There are plenty of girls who won't pull these games, so why waste time on this one? Agreed! I guess I'm just used to girls who come through with what they say, and I always do the same.
LoveLace Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Rude...sounds like maybe she does have another dude she's into, thinking she can keep you around in case that doesn't work out. But she's going about it the wrong way, I think a return call either way is respectful, at least to say sorry I'm seeing someone or something, anything!...then to dis you again, that's unacceptable. Next time you see her at the gym avoid the crap out of her. If she manages to corner you then turn down any invites to hang out and if she gets curious tell her you've met someone else. If she's like this now, she would probably still be this way later and you don't wanna get stuck with that.
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