Should I go for it?

[weweave]

Alright.

 

This friend of mine is at wit's end with his girlfriend of one year. He's likely to break up with her very soon, and he keeps talking to me about her. She has a tendency to be pretty controlling and dramatic, and he has a tendency to be pretty obliging and quiet, and he's tired of it.

 

Normally, I'd offer my advice, help him through the break up, and be happy to have it done with.

 

Here's the thing: I like him. And I think there's at least some chance that he likes me: he's flirtatious when he talks to me, we touch more often than I touch my other friends, and somehow, we always wind up talking about sex.

 

He's not publicly anything other than straight, and I've always been sort of a half-hearted bisexual, never really having any intense lust for another man. But now... I do. To add to the confusion, I'm not sure if what I feel towards him is friendship combined with sexual desire or the beginnings of romantic love.

 

After he breaks up with his girlfriend, what should I do? Pursue him as a boyfriend and risk our friendship, pursue him as a friend with benefits and risk his outrage, hook up with him once and risk the same, or just be his friend and try to forget about wanting him?

 

Thanks,

[weweave]

*bump*

 

...

 

I'm here all night.

[shadowofman]

I'd say just be friends with benifits, if you can get him to express any bisexuality at all. I guess outrage is a risk.

But, yeah, i wouldn't ask him to be your "boyfriend" or anything. Straight guys aren't usually into that.

[weweave]

To be clear, there's a palpable sexual vibe coming from him when we talk. It isn't just me doing the flirting.

[shadowofman]

Then go for it.

[weweave]

Hm. Perhaps I will. Thank you.

 

I'm still very open to other comments.