almosthere Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Seniors in high school I learned that my crush and her boyfriend (of a month and a half) are pretty "serious" (They were friends prior to that for awhile) They have gone to a cabin by themselves and have had sex at least a few times This is the girls 2nd boyfriend in 6 years I still think she likes me So, does this mean anything since we are in hs? Isnt it a benefit to me that he (I am assuming) pressured her into sex already? I still can't stop thinking about her and it is getting really frustrating. Thank you very much.
IrishCarBomb Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Isnt it a benefit to me that he (I am assuming) pressured her into sex already? Stop assuming. Start finding someone else.
Tony T Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Seniors in high school I learned that my crush and her boyfriend (of a month and a half) are pretty "serious" (They were friends prior to that for awhile) They have gone to a cabin by themselves and have had sex at least a few times This is the girls 2nd boyfriend in 6 years I still think she likes me So, does this mean anything since we are in hs? Isnt it a benefit to me that he (I am assuming) pressured her into sex already? I still can't stop thinking about her and it is getting really frustrating. Thank you very much. You have offered no information that this girl gives one hoot about you. She has a boy friend, she is having sex and from what you have written they are happy right now. Butt out and go find somebody for yourself. If she knew you were keeping up with her personal sexual matters, she most likely would never speak to you again. Stay out of people's personal business. It isn't right and doing so will never win you friends.
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 You have offered no information that this girl gives one hoot about you. She has a boy friend, she is having sex and from what you have written they are happy right now. Butt out and go find somebody for yourself. If she knew you were keeping up with her personal sexual matters, she most likely would never speak to you again. Stay out of people's personal business. It isn't right and doing so will never win you friends. Exactly what I thought when I read this. Most High School girls don't tend to sleep with their boyfriend of 1 month or whatever when they are in "love" with another guy. If she liked you then she would be with you, simple. And yes, I know I would have found it very creepy to know a guy was keeping tabs on my sexual relationship with my boyfriend.
Author almosthere Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 You have offered no information that this girl gives one hoot about you. She has a boy friend, she is having sex and from what you have written they are happy right now. Butt out and go find somebody for yourself. If she knew you were keeping up with her personal sexual matters, she most likely would never speak to you again. Stay out of people's personal business. It isn't right and doing so will never win you friends. Calm down. I am 95% sure she likes me. AND, a friend voluntarily told me that stuff. Jeezus.
Author almosthere Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 Exactly what I thought when I read this. Most High School girls don't tend to sleep with their boyfriend of 1 month or whatever when they are in "love" with another guy. If she liked you then she would be with you, simple. And yes, I know I would have found it very creepy to know a guy was keeping tabs on my sexual relationship with my boyfriend. She doesn't know I like her... And again someone told me that stuff.
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 She doesn't know I like her... And again someone told me that stuff. Then man up, tell her you like her. You have nothing to lose if she likes you, right?
Author almosthere Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 Then man up, tell her you like her. You have nothing to lose if she likes you, right? I am working on that now. Its not like she would break up with her bf if she liked me without knowing I like her. I know her friends want me to go out with her...so that cant hurt. Its hard to do much right now though with her having a bf ya know? Any suggestions are welcome.
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I am working on that now. Its not like she would break up with her bf if she liked me without knowing I like her. I know her friends want me to go out with her...so that cant hurt. Its hard to do much right now though with her having a bf ya know? Any suggestions are welcome. Get one of your friends to tell one of her friends so that you know it will get back to her. That way you aren't seen as the bad guy for trying to break them up. Oh yeah, or just tell her. She can't read your mind, and won't leave her bf if she doesn't think you like her back. If you want to do something about it then you need to tell her. She could be with him for ages and then you've missed your chance.
Author almosthere Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 Get one of your friends to tell one of her friends so that you know it will get back to her. That way you aren't seen as the bad guy for trying to break them up. Oh yeah, or just tell her. She can't read your mind, and won't leave her bf if she doesn't think you like her back. If you want to do something about it then you need to tell her. She could be with him for ages and then you've missed your chance. Thanks for the encouragement. That is my goal for the next few weeks.
Sunblast Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I hope you see that this is really an answer to your question, even if it may not seem this way at first (just reread). One of the main things in high school is true self-confidence. Which is NOT standing by a mirror saying "and gosh darn it, people like me" but a true "don't-give-a-damn" attitude. Respectful, even, live-and-let-live, even, but still, don't care. THAT is gold, and is your key to friends, women, sex, popularity, status, fun, access to everything, and everything else you want. Your confidence has to come from within. Meaning: if I come up to you and tell you you're a f'ing loser, you don't start doubting yourself. Because you know who you are, and you know (presumably) you are not a loser. That's what it means. And in high school, people will flock to you. How do I know all of this? Bro, I went through high school, started as a dork and ended up looked up to, and now I'm 25, owning and running two businesses, having women, traveling, and doing all sorts of cool things with my time. So I'm not some 40 yr old virgin telling you bs advice. This is real, and if you truly do it, you will truly see UNREAL results. And this girl and all other girls will fall into place and will be a LOT more open and receptive to you. No joke. It all starts with loving yourself.
Author almosthere Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 I hope you see that this is really an answer to your question, even if it may not seem this way at first (just reread). One of the main things in high school is true self-confidence. Which is NOT standing by a mirror saying "and gosh darn it, people like me" but a true "don't-give-a-damn" attitude. Respectful, even, live-and-let-live, even, but still, don't care. THAT is gold, and is your key to friends, women, sex, popularity, status, fun, access to everything, and everything else you want. Your confidence has to come from within. Meaning: if I come up to you and tell you you're a f'ing loser, you don't start doubting yourself. Because you know who you are, and you know (presumably) you are not a loser. That's what it means. And in high school, people will flock to you. How do I know all of this? Bro, I went through high school, started as a dork and ended up looked up to, and now I'm 25, owning and running two businesses, having women, traveling, and doing all sorts of cool things with my time. So I'm not some 40 yr old virgin telling you bs advice. This is real, and if you truly do it, you will truly see UNREAL results. And this girl and all other girls will fall into place and will be a LOT more open and receptive to you. No joke. It all starts with loving yourself. This is deep and good, I just am trying to understand it.
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