Uhriventis Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Before I deleted my email address and got a new one I sent my ex an email saying basically "If for some miraculous reason you have a change of heart you know my number and where I live." Should I have just sent nothing and make the transition without her knowing? Just wondering
SandyRose Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I did that once with another EX. I changed my e-mail addy, and changed my IM screen name. I never told him, yet i kept the same cell phone number. For about 4-5 months there was nothing....then out of nowhere he was blowing up my cell phone with late night phone calls, drunk voicemails, and text messages during the day begging me to call him back, and that he really wanted to talk. I never picked up, or responded to his texts, ever. By then i was so over him..and the power was back into my hands, and i changed my cell phone number without telling him, because i was sick and tired of his stupid voicemails and text messages and random calls, even while i was sleeping. What a slap in the face...he never knew how to contact me again. And i had someone new i was interested in at the time. You probably shouldn't have told her...i mean she knows where to find you and call you. I guess in a way, you kinda showed you're still hopeful that things might get better. But don't worry about it, it's okay...now is your time to maintain NC...and then you decide what you want to do if she contacts you again.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 With men, time opens the wounds and reality sets in that they may have love the girl they lost. With woman, usually shortly after the break-up, its over for them and they move on. I think it was a peace offering gesture (although your words did not detect that) and it puts the ball in her court. If she wants you, you have given her the power to reach you. NOT a bad thing.
Author Uhriventis Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 That's what the purpose of the E-Mail was for. Just to put the ball into her court. I sure hope she isn't over me completely. She has before left me and I would beg you know then once I stopped and went NC sure enough whether it was 2 weeks or 3 months I'd be sleeping and hear, "KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK!" My window rattling and I look out there she is.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Unless she meets someone else in the meantime, patterns in a relationship don't usually change. You'll be hearing a "KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK" on your email or home window.....
Author Uhriventis Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 She's been very very very confused. I took her from a broken home and helped her get her life on track. But, lately she's been flaking out a little. But, I've just been rolling with the punches and taking deep breaths. I seriously doubt she will meet another guy and even if she does I don't think she will let him get to her EMOTIONALLY. I really seriously doubt it. I mean I can't picture myself with another woman. I tried that last time we broke up and actually laying next to another woman mad me nauseous. Just felt different all together... Like alien to me. The feel of her skin, sound of her voice, just everything was off. Not my cup of tea at all. I sort of picture her the same way. But, I could be seriously wrong.
FindingMyselfAgain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Unless she meets someone else in the meantime, patterns in a relationship don't usually change. You'll be hearing a "KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK" on your email or home window..... Blue Eyed Brain, my ex- went on to the 5-time-convicted felon, multiple Orders-Of-Protection for Domestic Violence father of her child from 13 years back. He's preaching a lot of Jesus lately and she totally is into the religion thing (that changed: When we first got together she was spiritual but not religious). So she's all like, "He's a new man in Christ!" and stuff like that, but.... color me skeptical. I think he just saw a nice setup (she works, he wasn't, she owns a home, he was living with mom), and shouldered me out of the way with Game. We left it that if he doesn't work out, she can look me up. She said she absolutely would because I am a beautiful, wonderful man -- just not Christian enough for her right now. They are getting fast-track married, made the decision after only 30 days of phone calls and 3 in-person days. Whaddya think? Expect her call when this thing blows up?
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