Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 When you get a text do you: 1. Answer as soon as you can 2. Wait minutes or hours later (to show that you're not that interested) 3. Don't respond (want to show you are not interested) I mean texting is to be a fairly instant thing. But do you or do you think your partner plays games with messages and their responses?????
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I answer as soon as I have the time. Same goes with email. It is common courtesy to answer a text/email/any kind of message. I don't have the time nor the patience for little mind games.
Dynamo Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I reply whenever I (honestly) can get around to doing so. I don't go out of my way to respond that minute, but if I have a few free minutes, why not? I hate it when guys and girls try to play little mind games by purposefully waiting to seem not interested - I'd prefer someone give me a valid excuse why they didn't reply till the next morning, rather then play little games back and forth.
Star Gazer Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I generally respond the minute I get it, to be honest. The only time I don't respond right away is if there's a question involved. For example, a friend asking if we're still on for happy hour... I might need a hour or so to decide if I'm in before responding. My BF, on the other hand, barely ever responds to my texts. He HATES texting. If I text him, he calls me right back.
norajane Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I reply when I feel like it, and it has nothing to do with interest or playing games. Just because someone texts, leaves a voice mail, or emails me, does not mean I am obligated to reply immediately even if I am available. Unless there's a specific reason to reply right away - like I'm meeting someone and they want to know when I'll be leaving or there's an emergency - I reply when it suits me. Electronics are tools, not tethers. I am not obligated to be at the other end of a tether. PS - I hate texting, though, so especially won't text back until I'm ready to deal with the painfully slow thumb torture. If it's important, I call. PPS - All those people who feel the need to reply back to texts instantly WHILE THEY IGNORE THE PERSON THEY ARE ACTUALLY WITH need to have their phones smashed into little tiny pieces.
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 PPS - All those people who feel the need to reply back to texts instantly WHILE THEY IGNORE THE PERSON THEY ARE ACTUALLY WITH need to have their phones smashed into little tiny pieces. Yep, I totally agree with this. I fail to see how so many people forget their manners so constantly. Like I said, if I have the time then I will answer. But if you are spending time with other people and keep zoning out everytime you get a message, well priorities need to be re-evaluated.
Author Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 Yep, I totally agree with this. I fail to see how so many people forget their manners so constantly. Like I said, if I have the time then I will answer. But if you are spending time with other people and keep zoning out everytime you get a message, well priorities need to be re-evaluated. So, what if you're out with friends and a male friend starts texting, would you walk out on him?
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 So, what if you're out with friends and a male friend starts texting, would you walk out on him? No, I wouldn't walk out without saying goodbye, that's rude.
Star Gazer Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 So, what if you're out with friends and a male friend starts texting, would you walk out on him? If I'm out with friends, I'm not paying attention to my phone...including texts. He'll get a response when I'm done with my friends.
Phateless Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I usually text back as soon as I get around to it, unless it's urgent, then it's right away. It depends... sometimes I'll wait a bit so as not to seem too available.
Author Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 So, what if you're out with friends and a male friend starts texting, would you walk out on him? I had a guy texting another girl while we were hanging out. I told it was rude and he tried to bring me into the conversation. When we were ready to leave he leaned in for a kiss and I told that I was not turned on by his behavior.
Phateless Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I had a guy texting another girl while we were hanging out. I told it was rude and he tried to bring me into the conversation. When we were ready to leave he leaned in for a kiss and I told that I was not turned on by his behavior. Good. I won't respond to texts during a date, usually. I barely answer the phone at all when I'm hanging out with someone. I give my friends priority.
Lizzie60 Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I reply the minute I see it.. I am too old for stupid games... those are good when you are in high school... When I'm not interested, the guy knows it..so he won't waste his time texting me...
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I reply the minute I see it.. I am too old for stupid games... those are good when you are in high school... When I'm not interested, the guy knows it..so he won't waste his time texting me... Age doesn't matter, I'm barely out of High School and I'm too old for games Anyway, I prefer a phone call. Much nicer to hear their voice
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I rarely use text, none of my partners ever did and most of my friends don't use it. As for email, yes, I do respond to a partner as soon as possible but there's a more casual unsaid agreement with friends. I rarely use my PDA to connect to my email, though. If I'm out, I'm out and if it's important or an emergency, people know to call. Even then, if I'm out for dinner, the phone is put on silent/vibrate.
Dynamo Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I rarely use text, none of my partners ever did and most of my friends don't use it. As for email, yes, I do respond to a partner as soon as possible but there's a more casual unsaid agreement with friends. I rarely use my PDA to connect to my email, though. If I'm out, I'm out and if it's important or an emergency, people know to call. Even then, if I'm out for dinner, the phone is put on silent/vibrate. Same for me typically. I tend to turn my phone completely off when I take a lady out to dinner.
Author Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Author Posted November 20, 2007 I think texting is fun when it's rare. It's a tease and can be used as foreplay..... I sometimes get a mental turn-on from it...
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Same for me typically. I tend to turn my phone completely off when I take a lady out to dinner. It's only courteous to your dinner guest and the diners around you.
Dynamo Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 It's only courteous to your dinner guest and the diners around you. Very true.
huh Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I often can't respond when I'm at work or the gym or out with friends. But if I can, I try to respond instantly or at least explain why. There's one guy where there's a sort of mutual interst. We've been e-mailing with/talking on the phone with/texting. If one of us is in a meeting when the other texts, we'll just respond, "in meeting, more later". If I'm at the gym when I get a text from him, I'll write @gym, more later.
LovesDog Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 A WOMAN WITHOUT A MAN IS LIKE A FISH WITHOUT A BICYCLE." - GLORIA STEINEM OMG I LOVE THIS QUOTE! THANKS FOR SHARING.
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