genie Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 For the last few months I have been deceived by my boyfriend and one particular girl, Donna. He and I were having problems, Sonna acted as my friend, said she wanted to introduce me to others said I was too good for him. The whole time, she and he are seeing each other behind my back. Other than seeing my boyfriend, Donna is also having an affair with two married men. This past weekend, I was at a small club and I walked past her to go to the ladies room. I was talking to someone beside her and she started screaming at me. She proceeded in physically attacking me. I will never go to that place again and I am moving out of this small town. I have been told that Donna said if I go to her main married boyfriend (he doesn't know she is sleeping with others and he is s'pose to leave his wife after the holidays) he will not believe a word I say. She don't care. Donna bragged this weekend that the main bf is buying her a car. But I was told that if I tell his wife, that will mess her world up. Advice, please. I have never done that to anyone, I stay out of their business. Should I let his wife know?
Bryanp Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I would tell. She brought it all on herself.
Author genie Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 I want to so bad to hurt her for what she has done. I am really worried about how this will hurt his wife. That part is really sad.
Cobra_X30 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I would tell anyone that would listen... mostly to save them from the potential health risk that this woman poses! However, you need to make absolute certain before you take a step like that, that you are doing it for the right reason, and that you will not recieve any negative reprocussions from this.
scubafish Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 the fact that you can admit there is a bit of revenge hurt, is probably good, and lets you think over your reasoning. but,,,, this 'woman' needs a dose of reality, she is bahving very badly. I would tell. she needs to wake up, and the other men need to face the music as well. I sure wish someone would have told me when my H was having affair. People at work knoew, but did not want to 'intrude'. well, if they would have, things would not have gotten as bad as they did, and working on fixing things would have been alot easier. you are doing this for the other wife, who is innocent in this. you are saving her alot more grief down the line.
dbtmarley Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Before you tell just make sure you find somewhere secret to park your chariot.. either that or enough money to buy some new tires. I agree with everyone else... hubby could be hurting his wife worse than just emotionally.
Author genie Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 I was that wife at one time also. I had no clue and I felt so stupid afterwards. Should I just call the wife and tell her everything, or make an anonymous call. This all scares me and I hope it is the right thing. I may catch reprocussions, and because of pain the bf has caused me, I have been staying with a friend in another city during the weekdays. No matter what I catch, these people have made me feel like I am so on rock bottom, I don't know how it could get worse. I mean what is more trashier than two grown women in a physical alteration? That is so embarrassing. She hit and pulled my hair before I did anything and these people in this town said it my word against hers.
JamesM Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I was that wife at one time also. I had no clue and I felt so stupid afterwards. Should I just call the wife and tell her everything, or make an anonymous call. I mean what is more trashier than two grown women in a physical alteration? That is so embarrassing. She hit and pulled my hair before I did anything and these people in this town said it my word against hers. First off, your former BF slept around with a woman who slept around. You may wanna get checked for STDs. Telling the wife is the right thing, but you telling her may not be. Yet you are also an offended party....she would listen to you quicker than to the woman who wronged you. Fact is...telling her will probably set up a confrontation with her husband. This will end your friend's one affair. The question is...what will you accomplish by doing this? And as was said, are YOU prepared for the consequences?
Author genie Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 I have been checked, thank God all is okay. I hear she really likes this one particular guy. But then, I have heard that having affairs is what she has done for years and she totally expects money and gifts from them. She had my bf at the point he was going to give her furniture. The satisfaction that I would get is just the feeling that she did not respect my relationship, why should I respect hers. I just told my family everything and they don't want me to sell my place there, but maybe renting is an option. I am so confused. I'm just glad I'm not being fooled anymore.
JamesM Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I just told my family everything and they don't want me to sell my place there, but maybe renting is an option. I am so confused. I'm just glad I'm not being fooled anymore. It may be best if you wash your hands of this situation and move on in your life. If you reveal her secrets, then you will be more involved in her mess. If you simply move on, then I am willing to guess that in a few weeks/months, you will hear that her house of cards has fallen apart.
justice Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 The wife definately needs to know. And after her behavior of attacking you, I'd report her to the police on simple assault charges as well.
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