missi1980 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I am moving in with my best guy friend in about two months. All of our friends keep telling us that it will be impossible to live together without something happening between us or falling for each other. He does have a gf and she is fine with us living together. We have been best friends for awhile. Is it possible to live with a guy and not have anything happen? Or will this cause problems? Any opinions would be great!
reboot Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Make sure he never sees you in anything but big, baggy sweatsuits, and keep your door locked at night, and you'll be fine. (In other words, no, I don't think such things work very well as a rule )
Monty P Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 It has been my experience that it can work just fine. I had a female friend as a roommate for almost two years and never had a problem. We both had a SO at the time. We were just friends sharing a apartment and it worked quite well, and we are still friends after 10 years. It's alto better than someone you don't know. Like any roommate situation, just make sure the basic rules are set as early as possible, at least with the things that could be annoying to each of you. Like dishes, food, and cleaning. (she was a clean freak and I'm not..lol..) You don't want to ruin the friendship because of something seemingly insignificant. I will also laughingly need to say ditto to reboots post on clothing. It could be a bit..ummm...tough on him?...if you are going from the shower to your room and back because you forgot a certain bit of clothing...lol...
BeautifulMystique Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I am moving in with my best guy friend in about two months. All of our friends keep telling us that it will be impossible to live together without something happening between us or falling for each other. He does have a gf and she is fine with us living together. We have been best friends for awhile. Is it possible to live with a guy and not have anything happen? Or will this cause problems? Any opinions would be great! I lived with 2 guys for 2 years and it was good. At the time we were living together, one had a girlfriend and the other one was single. We set some rules - whoever cooks, one will be the sous chef and the other one will do the cleaning up. We all clean up the house together as we are all perfectionist (try to be at least! ). We don't have any rules on clothing though. I wear whatever I wear and so do they. They've seen me in just a towel and I have seen them in one... we just didn't cross any boundaries as we respect one another not to. I'm sure you'll have no problem seeing that his girlfriend is fine with it. She will probably be around a lot too as did my ex-roommate's girlfriend.
WitchyLady Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I've had male roomies and never had a problem, but then again I never walked around in a towel or anything less for that matter, lol. However, that being said, I have to advise against moving in with your good friend. Not because he's a guy, but because he's a good friend. In my experience one of the worst things you can do is to try to live with someone you are that fond of. 9 times outta 10 it just ruins the whole relationship. Fact is, I've had some really GOOD friends turn into strangers when I entered into a roomie situation with them, practically change overnight from the person I thought I knew into someone else completely. Living with a normal roomie is not the same as living with a close friend. Close friends have far fewer boundries, and trouble comes quickly as a result. It's far too easy to disagree with a normal roomie and move out with no hard feelings. But when it's your good friend you don't like living with there are all sorts of issues involved and the friendship seldom survives them. I make a habit of being friendly with my roomies, but I don't try to make best buddies out of them. It's far too messy when you are living in the same place, trying to be that close, and trying to maintain your own space.
snowman Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 just see how it goes that's all you can do. I think it should be fine though. but if it does get bad just move out.
LoveLace Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 If there's any physical attraction what so ever, I think anything's possible...
Summer_guy_uk Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I would be betraying my gender if I didn't ask you to flash the man every now and then. But yeah should work out ok long as your not too flirty and spend many nights cuddled up on the sofa watching sex and the city "as friends"
Magnatolia Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Nobody can tell you whether something will happen. Some people can be best friends and not fall for each other. Some can't. But if you two have been best friends for a while and you've spent lots of time together, then yeah things should be fine.
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