Steffie575 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 So after my ex broke up with me for about 2 months I was a WRECK. I cried everyday, talked about him constantly, and tried to call/text him with no avail. I was depressed on my birthday 2 weeks ago and basically nothing anyone could say made me feel better. I listened to sad songs all the time to apparently make myself feel worse. The thing is....the past few days I have felt better. Like.....a lot better. For no reason. I still have a lot of stressful things going on besides him and yet, I feel positive. I feel like I can fix all my problems I have and better yet, get over him as well. I still miss him, but Im not crying everyday. Here's the question. Am i just avoiding the issue? I wont listen to sad songs anymore, and if I begin to think of him, I usually stop immediately and think about something else. For the first few months I wallowed in my pain and grief and thought of nothing else but him. Is it doing me good by focusing on other things and people now? I figure since I already had my period of all the sadness, I am properly handling my feelings, but Im not sure. Sorry if this is confusing, Im even confused, haha. I just wanna know if Im doing the right thing by refusing to be depressed anymore. Thanks.
carrotgirl Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Stef, if this is working for you now, if this thought pattern helps you to be comfortable and functional, then this is the right way, right now, for you. It's very, very brave to confront a sad situation and with nothing more to go on than will and faith, decide to try feel something else besides sad. Do you know what a tremendous thing you're doing for yourself? Congratulations! Carrot
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