starlite Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 So...To summarize my ex and I broke up like 6 weeks ago. We were together 2.5 years. I was a loyal and devoted gf...and he had a tendancy to lie and manipulate. Well, we didnt go completely nc right away...still had a few I miss you so much texts (mutually) and I knew he still loved me, we just didnt work. Well, I found out last week he is sleeping with his friends ex (they are no longer friends now) and he cheated on me a few times, in the first year of us being together (and probably more). So what am i having a really hard time coping with? The fact that he hasnt even picked up the phone to TRY and apologize to me. Sorry I cheated...sorry i hurt you...sorry i rebounded soi quick and you had to find out about it and such a crappy way...sorry that I tricked u into staying in a relationship for so long. I know he had strong feelings for me...I also know he was a JERK! But just TRY and say you're sorry! Not that I would accept it, but has he lost ALL respect. He has a new gf and now whatever. I know he cares that I know and is VERY angry with his friend for telling me (Which he doesnt really have a pot to piss in with that one) but i deserve something. I wouldnt even answer his call...but i dont know. You probably know what I mean. Also, my brothers are still friends with them, my ex and his new gf. And she like plasters herself on my brothers myspace saying to come hang out with them...and see his band with her etc. I HAVE DONE NOTHING! Not a phone call to bitch her out, nothing! I feel like it is all so disrepectful. Support me! Please!
carrotgirl Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Sanity check. I understand that you want an apology. I really do. Do you see how someone who lacks the care and respect to be faithful to you in the first place is not likely have enough consideration to apologize to you? {{{{hug}}} Carrot
oppath Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Oh yes, I agree with carrot. I want my ex to apologize too. She rebounded with me after a 5 year relationship; I was the new bf. But she would still hang out with the ex and not tell me about it, and he did not know about me. When he sniffed about me, he proposed to her. She did not tell me this. I learned later, when I was (as a guy) practically crying to a mutual friend about the fact that she asked me to be friends with benefits when I distinctly said "I can't be your friend because I love you; please give me space" four times, and when I expressed anger, she said "I was just joking." All I wanted was an apology. To this day, I want that apology. It would help me heal, It has taken 9 months to realize, if she were apologetic, she would have told her ex 'sorry, I have a new bf' to begin with (yes it sucks to have your ex move on so soon but at the same time, out of respect for a new person, you shouldn't be in contact with an ex if they can't handle you are in a new relationship), she certainly would have told me he proposed, and she would not have said 'I was just joking' when I expressed anger over her asking me to be **** buddies. She wouldn't have asked it at all given the context, or at least she would have apologized when it demonstratably hurt me. Why would she apologize? If she truly valued and respected me, I would have never been put in that situation. It has nothing to do with you. Yes, it is disrespectful, but that does not mean you aren't worthy of respect. It does not mean you do not have tremendous value and aren't deserving of generous love. It simply means: he is a douche, so he is incapable of taking responsibility for the hurt he caused, because if he were capable to taking responsibility and he did possess integrity, he would not have done those things in the first place.
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