overanalytical Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 my fiance and i got in a fight yesterday around lunch...it was after a long night of p;artying with friends, we were both tired, house had been wrecked but we were hanging out in the living room, being lazy. i got up nad his friend had spilled a drink and i started cleaning it. i got ill cause it was HIS friends who did it and he was laying on teh couch not helping. so i snapped at him...this led to a full blown fight...him basically saying he ddn't know if he wanted to be with anyone and that led to him saying we aren't sharing tgiving together...i'm just bawling at this point...he slams the door and goes to teh bedroom. doesn't come out the rest of hte day. i go to bed at 7 and don't even say anything to him. about midnight he gets up nad kisses me about 10 times on my forehead and tells me he loves me...goes to do something about 2 am he comes back to bed and hugs on me and kisses me. i act like i'm asleep. this is his way of saying he's sorry.... but i do'nt think i'm raedy to forgive him. i dont' want the fight to keep going on but i also dont' want that to ever happen again and i'm afraid if i say 'okay' i'm over it then that's leaving teh door open for it to be okay if it happens again. we're getting married in january...we have a roommate with us that isn't making things easy and he'll be here until beginning of january....money is tight and fiance still hasn't found a decent job but is getting unemployement from the company that had a major layoff. we have a lot of stresses going on right now...but i don't want to blame them, but it's evident they play a huge role in this idiotic fight. wat do i do? i'm not calling him today. if he calls i'll talk but don't knwo what to say....i'm so hurt. if we don't share tgiving together i'm ggoing to be even more hurt. i know he's going through a lot but i feel like i'm getting the brunt of it. i've been divorced before...i don't watn that to happen again. should this be a warning sign that i need to not marry him? coul this be a signal he really needs help from me and is about to hit rock bottom? it's easy to say leave him, you don't need that. i am asking for advice please...i want it to work. he is the love of my life. i don't know how i would ever fall out of love with him.
Trezza Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Everyone gets into arguments - it doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship will end because of it! Just give it a bit of time and see what happens! I would be surprised if you posted another message saying it was over - in your words he is the love of your life. I seriosuly think you shoudn't worry too much about this!
Author overanalytical Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 you're right...i just wonder because it seems that since we've gotten the roommate nad he lost his job things are so stressful that our relationship takes the brunt of it all. i'll wait and see. i'm not contacting him today. he needs some time to sort things out and think things through...and realize he was a jerk but how much he loves me and i love him. fights happen. so does making up. : )
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