can'tbuyabucket Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 i have been single now for over a year. one reason why is because i am very picky and also because i enjoyed my freedom and the single life. recently i've grown a liking for a certain individual. i'm in my last year of college and no girl that i've met here as caught my eye/given me butterflies. well this special somebody has...only problem is...she has a boyfriend and one of her best friends likes me a lot i think (i have no interest in her though). i know this sounds absurd but my roomate is very close to her and from what i understand, their relationship isn't anything special and the guy kind of seems like a douchebag. for example if they haven't seen each other in awhile, which is usually the case, he'll go out with his boys instead of hang out with her. i dont know him personally and i have nothing against him so i really can't say these things. we hit it off really well, i make her laugh and she thinks i'm entertaining and the first time we met she said "you're cute" with a huge smile on her face. she seems really flirty with me sometimes even when theres other guys around (yet she'll only be flirty with me) so i don't think its just her personality, i honestly feel as though theres chemistry there. i really don't want to be "that guy", because i've been burnt by "that guy" but at the same time it would be nice to finally get what i want. its been awhile.. i am also not a girlfriend stealer and my intentions aren't to break them up. my intentions are to hang out with her more often and show her who i am while simultaneously learning more about who she is. if it leads to something, than wonderful....and if not then thats fine, i can go back to square one. my question is how do i go about doing this in the best way without causing problems. i still want her best friend to be a friend of mine and i don't want hearts being broken left and right. their relationship seems more of the casual type, its fairly new also. i am more afraid that she would resist because of her friend more-so than the bf. thank you for reading.
Author can'tbuyabucket Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 i really can't buy a bucket can i?
whichwayisup Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 i am also not a girlfriend stealer and my intentions aren't to break them up. my intentions are to hang out with her more often and show her who i am while simultaneously learning more about who she is. if it leads to something, than wonderful....and if not then thats fine, i can go back to square one. Malciously, it isn't your intention to split them up, but your intentions of spending more time with her, find out more about her, getting her to 'notice' you in hopes she'll realize she wants you and not her boyfriend, IS actually an intention to split them up. You're just are going to try and do it in an innocent way. She has a boyfriend and that's the bottomline. She obviously likes him enough that she's putting up with certain things. You only see what is infront of you, you don't know their intimacy, what they talk about when alone..This guy may be the wrong one for her, but it's up to HER to decide that, not you. I would back off and leave her alone..If she is interested, she'll break up with her boyfriend and in time look for you. Until then, like her from a distance and keep busy on other things. Focussing on her, spending energy ON her isn't good because it will only do damage to you.
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