SmileyFace82 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Hi everyone, My first post on here, i guess i'm not necessarily looking for advice, but i just need to share my story and vent a little as the last few months have been the worst months of my life! But i have turned the corner now (i couldn't ever get any lower than i was last month) although like a few others on here... i'm still not completely "over" it all yet. Here's my story:- Basically i met this girl from the States via a mutual friend of ours. She was beautiful, intelligent and we hit it off completely... Sometimes i guess you just know. Problem was, she had to go back to the U.S the next day (I'm based in Hong Kong). We contacted each other literally when she landed and we said to each other, let's give this a shot. We spoke on the phone for hours everyday. I went to U.S to visit her and she came back over here to visit. Everything was seriously perfect (i guess we were dreaming!)... She then decided to move over here to Hong Kong to work... i wouldn't say it was all because of me but i think i was a huge factor in her decision. Well anyway, we spent a few weeks in Europe before we came over to HK together. She got a good job at a bank and then that's when the cracks started to appear... She got stressed at her job, we were trying to get used to each other, even though i hardly saw her as the working hours are mad over here. To cut a long story short... 2 months later she ended it with me. For a long time i blamed myself and trying to work out what i did wrong and how i can change myself. I begged and pleaded (which i know is wrong now!) and that just pushed her further away. Subsequently i now know that 2 weeks after she split up with me, she went on holiday with one of her male colleagues and i've now seen them two together as a couple. She has also introduced him to our mutual friends and i'm obviously cut out a little now... The week after we split up we met for lunch. She was crying to me saying that work is getting on top of her and that her only friend at work is this guy (her new bf) and everyone teases them saying that they are a couple and she's had to avoid him to stop these rumours. She promised me they were not and will never be a couple as this guy is a player and shags around a lot and she would never consider being with a guy like that. I then said to her, screw what everyone was saying, just laugh it off and be yourself, don't let people get to you and be friends with whoever you want (in hindsight that kinda backfired! lol). Like i explained above, she then went on holiday together to a romantic holiday island(!) that weekend and let's just say... you can guess what happens next. Anyway, that's all fine now. The problem is i don't understand why i still care about her so much? She's basically met someone else who she thinks is better. i guess i'm just looking for answers...as to how she can move on SO quickly. One of our mutual friends who met the new guy said that they won't last but i that i still need to move on and find someone else... i know that. I've promised myself that i would never get back with her IF the situation ever arose... so that should be clear... i shouldn't need to think about her anymore. But i do... I'm not as bad as i was, i've actually moved on a lot and i've started seeing other women... but i guess i was really hurt by the whole experience. I guess i feel like i've lost a friend as well as my girlfriend. I'm actually slowly recovering and i'm feeling much better now. I've just got to stop thinking about her... somehow... Well anyway... i'm not sure what everyone makes of my situation... Feel free to respond with your thoughts
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