fray718 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I've got a question on this scenario. Me and this guy is making out and he reaches up my shirt (he wants sex) but I'm the type of girl who'd only do it with someone if it's exclusive. So when this happens, how do I tell him politely and wisely about that? If I tell him straight out I only do it if it's exclusive, he might just say 'yes' then dump me after he gets it from me. If I just say something like 'i'm not ready for this yet with you'....he might feel rejected...or worse, he might be thinking 'well if she doesn't want to have sex with me then maybe she doesn't like me that much...and maybe i should hold off on that talk until she's willing to have sex with me'.....what's a girl to do?
maynicholas Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Tell him the truth. So what if he feels rejected. You will never regret NOT having sex with someone. Do you want to be exclusive with him? If you do let him know. If he says he doesn't want that then walk away. If he does, then great- just don't have sex with him right away. Give it a couple more weeks after that. If he sticks around (it's only a couple of weeks after all) then have sex if your ready. If your not, then don't. If he walks away- well at least you didn't have sex with him.
Krytie TV Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Words mean nothing, make him show you by investing time. We will say almost anything to get sex. Make him "invest", that's the only way you truly know.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Tell him the truth. So what if he feels rejected. You will never regret NOT having sex with someone. Do you want to be exclusive with him? If you do let him know. If he says he doesn't want that then walk away. If he does, then great- just don't have sex with him right away. Give it a couple more weeks after that. If he sticks around (it's only a couple of weeks after all) then have sex if your ready. If your not, then don't. If he walks away- well at least you didn't have sex with him. I agree with this completely. This is why it is always good to wait to have sex with someone. If he sticks around you know he is interested in you, and not just interested in having sex. Be honest with him and tell him you'd like to be exclusive but also say that you would still like to get to know him better and that you aren't ready to have sex. If he is really interested in being with you he will wait.
Author fray718 Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 Tell him the truth. So what if he feels rejected. You will never regret NOT having sex with someone. Do you want to be exclusive with him? If you do let him know. If he says he doesn't want that then walk away. If he does, then great- just don't have sex with him right away. Give it a couple more weeks after that. If he sticks around (it's only a couple of weeks after all) then have sex if your ready. If your not, then don't. If he walks away- well at least you didn't have sex with him. I agree with this completely. This is why it is always good to wait to have sex with someone. If he sticks around you know he is interested in you, and not just interested in having sex. Be honest with him and tell him you'd like to be exclusive but also say that you would still like to get to know him better and that you aren't ready to have sex. If he is really interested in being with you he will wait. Wow, this is great advice! I'm 24 and I still don't know these things So glad this forum exists for clueless people like me :laugh:
Lauriebell82 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Wow, this is great advice! I'm 24 and I still don't know these things So glad this forum exists for clueless people like me :laugh: Glad we could help you!
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