Sunblast Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I have this serious question for all you LoveShackers. Seriously. I am a 25 year old man. I'd say pretty healthy, pretty well adjusted. Straight. About 50 women. But it's like I've stopped caring about women, I guess. I want a girlfriend, and I do like sex, but if a girl is kissing me, I'd kiss her back. I'd even do all the motions. And I'm drawn to her, but I'm not -in the moment-. I can stop at any time. If we're ****ing and she says okay, let's stop - okay, I can stop and go talking to my friends, or working on my truck, or reading a book, without skipping a heartbeat. Everything seems normal? No excess in drugs or alcohol, not much stress in life, seem to be eating okay and even working out some. What gives? This has started about... I dunno.. a number of months ago.
dutchie Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Maybe you haven't found anyone yet that really gets you hot? Or maybe you are depressed? Sorry, I don't have much. Good Luck
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 What happened those few months ago when you started to feel like this? Some event that may have been the trigger?
halfarock Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 When I was in my later twenties, going through about a girl a week, thinking that one girl was as good as the next, then suddenly it occurred to me that it just got boring, that neither that one or the other really mattered. I took a long break from it all. When I got back into dating I found myself actually caring about women, caring about their feelings, only wanting to be with ones that I cared about. Maybe it's a maturity thing.
Author Sunblast Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 Aaaaaah!! Halfarock are you telling me that I am getting OLD?!!! /depression sets in/. Heeeeeeeeell no.. I have to go out and go through a girl a week (damn that's a lot of thankless work) to prove you-me-nature wrong! Ugh. Damn; so much for a feel-good website.
halfarock Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I am a 25 year old man. I'd say pretty healthy, pretty well adjusted. Straight. About 50 women. But it's like I've stopped caring about women, I guess. I want a girlfriend, It just seems like a period in my life. I’ve always wanted a girlfriend, a one and only but things just turned out that I had opportunities with lots of women early on and after a point I did stop caring. I’ve always thought that it was because I had too many. Guys who get few women tend to appreciate them more because they are rare, but for others, and apparently with you (with 50) they are plentiful enough that each one doesn’t matter all that much, it becomes more expected, more of a habit, just another routine.
Timberlane Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 If at 25 you have already bedded down 50 women, then you are probably not selective nor do you invest anything emotionally in them, hence the Olde Empty Feeling.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 To the OP: You are playing with your head. You are collecting instead of enjoying the people you are with. You are not into anyone because you are not into YOU. If you don't care about yourself, then you won't feel for others. Like Scrooge. Take a mental checkup and get in there again....
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