thewholeshabangg Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 so ive known this guy for about 9 months. we are on and off.. nothing has ever been official. about 3 weeks ago we got into a tiff.. a big one. we haven't been talkin much.. and out of the blue he sends me a 'i love you' text. and mind you, this isn't the first time.. he has said it before.. never to me though. he has also sent me a 'wanna get married?' text a few times before. i don't know what to say to him.. i know he doesn't mean it because, well it just doesn't make sense. but i don't know how to respond because i don't know what he is doing.. playing games? im just so confused. any thoughts could help!! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 SMS text messages are "weak." More like words of endearment instead of real genuine words. I would suggest having a face to face and see if he says those words. Those words have different meanings in real life compared to text messaging. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 he has said it before.. never to me though. he has also sent me a 'wanna get married?' text a few times before. Could it be that you're both off and on for 9 months so he doesn't know if he should say 'I love You' to your face? I don't expect any guy to tell me he loves me if we were in an 'off and on' relationship. I'm weird.. if it's off and on for more than 5 months, I'd break it off for good. Link to post Share on other sites
Lee725 Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 i don't know what to say to him.. i know he doesn't mean it because, well it just doesn't make sense. but i don't know how to respond because i don't know what he is doing.. playing games? He could be playing games, but talk to him in person, have a joke about it if you are not sure how to start the conversation... You never know, he might be trying to tell you something and just be stumbling a bit to find the right time/words/situation... So he is just putting it out there on TXT so if you reject him it wont be as bad, like it would be if you rejected him to his face... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 19, 2007 Share Posted November 19, 2007 He just texts that out of the blue? Do you think he's drinking and dialing? How do you feel about him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author thewholeshabangg Posted November 19, 2007 Author Share Posted November 19, 2007 uhhh well. he has said it before. and yeah is was wayyy out of the blue because we are/were fighting. and it was kinda late, but he is not much of a drinker and dialer. once or twice, but i don't think it was influenced by drinking. i really do like him and i care for him a lot. but the thing is, us being on and off all the time is starting to piss me off and i want something to be official. either we talk, or we don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thewholeshabangg Posted November 19, 2007 Author Share Posted November 19, 2007 and i don't htink he would be scared of rejection because even though we aren't 'together', he knows how i feel about him. and i wouldn't go as far as love, but i care a lot for him... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 I would just come right out and ask him why he texts about loving you, but hardly ever calls you to actually speak to the woman he supposedly loves. What do you have to lose, really? Link to post Share on other sites
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