How do I forget about him!

[angelblueeyes_9]

I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and I broke up with him because of all the lying he did. At the beginning everything was so perfect, this continued for about 2 years in the relationship. We were so close and we trusted in each other completely. Then after a while he started treating me differently. I broke up with him because I caught him many times lying to me. I dont know if he ever cheated on me with another girl because I never caught him but i am almost sure he did. But even though I left him I cant seem to stop calling him. We stiull see each other and I told him I want to be with him but that he cant lie to me. He says that he doesnt want to stop anything between us but that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with me because he knows it doesnt work out. But in the meantime he tells me that he loves me and that he wants to be with me. When he goes out he never picks up my calls but he will send me text messages saying that I am in his heart and not to be sad because he is not doing anything bad. I dont know what to do anymore. I try stop speaking to him but it hurts so much!!!How can I forget someone that I love but doesnt love me back!!!Sorry for writing so much!!

[Lee725]

You probably need to let him go.

He has a history of lying to you, this will probably never change because the precident has already been set.

You need to pull away, in the long run even tho it will be hard, it will be for the best.

 

If you did get back with him, how could you ever trust that he would not be lying again? The first few months back together you might be able to not think about it but eventually when it gets back down to the normal ins and outs of relationship days, you will prob start to question his honesty again.

 

The path of letting go of someone you love is rarely easy, but the path of hanging onto something that is not right for you can be much more damaging.

There are few people who can say that no contact is easy with someone you really do care about, there are many of us here that do it everyday.

You are not alone.

 

Good luck. Post here when times get tough.... it really does help.

[bustertypsy]

You finished the relationship and you can't stop calling him!!??

Firstly if you end a relationship,normally you go your own way,without him.

Contact should be broken,at least for a number of months.

You are only tormenting yourself by contacting him,and he is probably confused too.

No relationship is worth a thing if there isn't complete trust.

Doubts will always linger in the back of the mind,unless it is completely resolved and put to bed.

So as the dumper,you must decide if you really want to be with, or without him.You can't have both.

[Da_1_n_OnlyN3na]

you should have thought about breaking up with him before u did it because once you break up with someone you cant be calling them because once you break up it means you dont want to deal with them anymore...i broke up with my boyfriend because we were having some problems and the same day a couple hours later i called him asking him to take me back were back but were on a break for a few days im letting him call me when he wants because he asked i cant be friends with someone who i have had history with had strong feelings for but this time is different were on a break and planing to get back so i have to deal with it...i rely on " if its meant to be we will be back nd better, if not den i guess we were never meant to be 2guether".....dont call him dont choke him with your prescence thats a way he will miss you he will think your not interested anymore and would wonder and call you and ask you....try to be strong i know it hurts and its hard but us girls have to get used to everything in this world we got it bad...our love is stronger than a mans....