tashsih Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Id been finding virus' on my cputer so I decided to go tot the history and i find all these searches for "tiny teens" and easy babysitters! I told my bf of 5+ yrs not to look up that stuff online especially on MY cputer! After a while he stopped denying it - it wasnt like i had to drag it out of him but he acted like" whats the problem" I DO NOT have a prob w/ porn - I watch it over 3 xs a week BUT I dont look up krap like that - that said he stopped as far as i know and i wasnt too worried cause ppl have dif stuff that turns them on and he sd it was just fantasy - i sure have some kinky ones ... well anyway i told him if he wants to watch porn just watch youporn.com cause its not going to give the cputer a virus - but 6 mths later im seeing it again! WTF???? today i found hes been looking at personal ads in our area AND on myspace hes been putting in searches for 18-25 yr old women in my area - i was laying asleep 2 ft away from him @ the time and he was searching for id say an hour or more! I dont look up locals so why does he?! when we have probs - usually b/c i think hes not giving to me im just giving to him - sexually & w/ chores we talk about it and he does better for a lil while and then it happens again i really dont see any evidence of him cheating but its disturbing that hes looking all the time for who else is out there could this just be a turn on? we are very close we finish each other sentences and laughtogether everyday we have a lot of fun and cuddle....i never have any reason to end this but im starting to wonder if this is a sign
Author tashsih Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 i feel really offended and disrespected why notlook atporn or something why local girls on sites looking for a one night stand or dates wtf so i couldnt help but not speak to himafter i saw that on the history and i answered the 10th time he asked "whats up w/ you" i sd - Why do you want to look up personal ads he was kinda shocked i sd it again - why do you always look up these local personals? hes like- always? I dont . yes you do hes- no...i did today but ... what? who cares im bored im just bored playing around on the internet me- ive seen your searches plenty of times on the cputer . 18-25 yrs old in our area and **** why do you wanna see whos out there? him-no i was just looking around its notheing to worry about who cares f it its not anything so that was quick and hes prob thinking - i got outta that one quick but i still feel like thats bsht and not right!i have a job interview so im gonna try to moveforward to my day and forget this for a few hrs
Cobra_X30 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I'd say this is a big problem. He is playing this off like it means nothing... but it does, and he knows it! You know it too, so dont buy into his bullcrap!
Art_Critic Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 when we have probs I've got news for you.. you have a big problem right now.. You need to hash this out with him.. get it all out on the table in front of you so you can make an informed decision.. I think he is playing around with the idea of cheating on you.. or at the very least he is looking .. I also wouldn't be as worried about the porn in as much as the fact he is on myspace and the personals is were the big issues lie.. He isn't just killing time.. he is disrespecting you.
Author tashsih Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 yeah i think youre right hes trying to blow it off and he keeps kissing my ass all day grrr im gonna have to put my foot down on this one - and keep my eyes wide open i dont wanna be a snoop but its my cputer - i installed a keylogger - its my right to know ha
JackJack Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 yeah i think youre right hes trying to blow it off and he keeps kissing my ass all day grrr im gonna have to put my foot down on this one - and keep my eyes wide open i dont wanna be a snoop but its my cputer - i installed a keylogger - its my right to know ha If you find out some more things from the keylogger, perhaps things that aren't to good, what is your plan then?
Author tashsih Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 well whether or not i see anything on the keylogger m going to use this as motivation to be more independent and keep my eyes open BUT if i find anything its over - i wont be played a fool i got that job btw so now im going to have enough $ to get by on my own just fine after speaking to my friends out of town who know him too , i really think its not like he was shopping for a cheat BUT it WAS disrepectful and now he knows thats NOT something ill tolerate !- im usually so easy going andlet everything slide off and forgive in 5 mins- this time'd been different he has been saying that hes sorry /hes embarrassed/ he wants me and him to stay together and ive made sure to hold my ground i tried to talk about moving apart since our lease is coming to an end - not in a threatening way or in a fight but a serious talk he says that doesnt want that so ill give it a go but hes on watch for sure
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