adam11 Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Is it just me or are weekends so much harder? Im alot better during the week, but when the weekend comes the anxiety goes into overdrive.. I can't bare it.. Do you guys feel the same? xx
HarakIgia Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Hey there, hang in there. It's already Sunday. Weekends I think can suck because that's when life can have a tendency to slow down and you start to think about all the stuff you surpress all week. At least that's what I go through at times.
Uhriventis Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 I'm the same way however, it's because my mind races and I begin to think of her getting drunk and acting a food if you know what I mean. I think of all these off the wall situations about what she could be doing not what she probably is doing. I too am going through an extremely difficult break up however, I intend to make it work- though it may take time I'm very hard headed.
Lyssa Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Weekends are harder for me because I work weekends - very boring! Time tends to slow during the weekends. Don't like going out on weekends cause of the crowd. I look forward to weekdays esp Wed & Thurs as those are my day offs! Wooohhooo!!
luther Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Same goes for me, weekends and nights are the worst. Like you the week day isnt so bad working 8-10 hours a day keeps my mind in check.
Author adam11 Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 my mind races and I begin to think of her getting drunk and acting a food. I think of all these off the wall situations about what she could be doing not what she probably is doing. **yeah!!!** exactly that! how do you guys deal with it? AD XX
Uhriventis Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 You just can't let it get to you. Go out be with your friends. Play yer guitar if you do. Just keep busy.
MattyTee Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Hope things are good young man! Weekend is over, get exercising!
johan Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Over time you will forget what love was like, and you'll come to appreciate the solitude and the wonderful things you get to do when no one is around to watch. You'll find that weekends and evenings are the best time to pursue the little hobbies that you invent for yourself. Things like loading and unloading the dishwasher different ways. And you can dust as much as you want. Also you'll learn that the TV can be a great substitute for human contact, and over time even that will become an intrusion. You will someday learn to prefer weekends. Just give it time...
Msblueyes Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I think coming home after work is worse than weekends. Between 5 & 7 is pretty depressing to me. I've gone back to the gym now and go after work. I can't do my running as I tripped & banged the top of my foot so I'm doing weights with arms/legs, the toning stuff. But I started just bawling after I got out of the gym last night, all the way home because of the emptyness.
MattyTee Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 I found exercise was a good way of releasing those feelings that have got stuck as well. I quite often found myself tearful after a run. It felt like it helped work through it
D&S Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Perhaps you could go out into the city, or anywhere there're lots of people and go for a long walk. I find that immersing yourself in the company of strangers is surprisingly distracting. It helps to remind yourself of all the other people in the world who might be having a hard time themselves and you're not alone!
shayna Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Yeah- the weekend issue is a BIG deal for me too! I ALWAYS wonder if my ex is with this bed buddy of his- whether they'll get together again even tho he said they wouldn't because it was "too complicated" (I know her)- ha! Loneliness makes you do things you say you wouldn't. I know if I had the convenience of a bed buddy right now, I would go for it too. But with me its not to have fun, it would be to try to get over him...or maybe a bit of revenge (but without him knowing) or to feel I am attractive to others...Most of my week is occupied by wondering if they have fallen back into bed out of loneliness or maybe that he really does want to be with her. Why does this matter so much to me? How can I stop this? Has anyone got any suggestions to stop the obsession? I can't bear the thought of him moving on so quickly (we were together 8.5 years- now is almost 5 months post breakup).
Lizzie60 Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 It used to be like that when I left my second ex... I hated weekends back then... but once I learned and appreciated being single it was all over and now I can't wait for the weekend to be here. You got to learn to love yourself and be happy being single then weekends are sooo much appreciated.
Uhriventis Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Yeah- the weekend issue is a BIG deal for me too! I ALWAYS wonder if my ex is with this bed buddy of his- whether they'll get together again even tho he said they wouldn't because it was "too complicated" (I know her)- ha! Loneliness makes you do things you say you wouldn't. I know if I had the convenience of a bed buddy right now, I would go for it too. But with me its not to have fun, it would be to try to get over him...or maybe a bit of revenge (but without him knowing) or to feel I am attractive to others...Most of my week is occupied by wondering if they have fallen back into bed out of loneliness or maybe that he really does want to be with her. Why does this matter so much to me? How can I stop this? Has anyone got any suggestions to stop the obsession? I can't bear the thought of him moving on so quickly (we were together 8.5 years- now is almost 5 months post breakup). I think all of us have a major fear of our SO moving on quicker than us. I don't think they do though... Although I am guilty of worrying about it. Like for instance I've been up all night just worrying. But, I'm pretty sure he still thinks of you and has not moved on. I also think if the ex or even you goes on to sleep with other people it is only to fill that hole that is no longer there.
Author adam11 Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 Hope things are good young man! Weekend is over, get exercising! man, I dont mean to be all negative n stuff but... I feel worse this week. The weekend was nothing compared to how I am feeling now. I am not looking forward to next weekend.. I thought i was doing ok. I dunno what's triggerd this?!?!... i
izzylicious Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I agree, I'm strong all week, but on the weekends I cave in and call him or he calls me. We always did something fun on the weekends, it was my favorite part of the week. All of my friends are married with kids so it's hard to find someone else to do things with. I'm going to find a big all-consuming project to work on to fill up my time til I'm ready to go out into the big scary dating world again.
Author adam11 Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 Hope things are good young man! Weekend is over, get exercising! man, I dont mean to be all negative n stuff but... I feel worse this week. The weekend was nothing compared to how I am feeling now. I'm not looking forward to next weekend.. I thought i was doing ok. I dunno what's triggerd this?!?!... i just want to run away. Is there anyone here that feels the same and uses msn? I'd really fancy a chat. mr_sickflip@hotmail.com Thanks for ur help tho guys, I will try to take what i can onboard. xx
izzylicious Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Adam, there will be good days and bad, and good hours and bad. Yesterday I hit the lowest low I had for a week, but today I bounced back to feeling the best I have since the breakup. Hang in there! Your days will be happy again.
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