bigheartkindsoul Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 On my rather long quest for trying to get my self esteem up and increased self worth I ask this. For the first time in years I quite like my body I have great legs, bust, bum, toned arms and shoulders the only thing that I would consider bad is my tummy it sticks out a bit and can be alot bigger by the end of the day (I hate it I mean really hate it). I do exercise alot, and am hoping over time this might assist the tone of my tummy and weight loss a little but do not want to lose lots of weight. Do you expect a girl to be toned and not have any lumps n bumps? Would it bother you if just this one part (tummy) wasn't so good? If she didn't point it out to you would you actually notice? If your about to get down n dirty, do you actually see anything other than matching undies and whats under them? Sorry I know it might seem a stupid question to ask but it really is something that affects my self esteem and can get me down and make me feel like I am not good enough.
shewasthesun Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 I know this is for guys to answer but have you tried using cromium? It's a vitamin that is supose to help with turning "fat" into lean muscle. I have the same problem as you. eveything else I am satisfied with but my stomach. My dr. advised me to use this vitamin.
lino Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 It depends. With some women a small tummy can be quite sexy & really suit her. You should probably try to reduce it if you can, especially if it affects your confidence. You say you exercise alot which is good. How's your eating habits? Improving them can help greatly. Do you drink? Cutting down there will also help alot. I wouldn't bother with these instant & 'magic' fixes like the vitamin mentioned by the above poster or things like fat blaster, etc as they're only temporary at best & you don't wanna be filling your body with that crap forever. Stronger disciplining of yourself is the only thing which truly works. Do you expect a girl to be toned and not have any lumps n bumps? I'm in real good shape & work hard to be that way so yeah, I expect a girl I'm involved with to be in great shape also. However like I said above a small tummy can be quite sexy if it suits the girl.
Lyssa Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Sit-ups and toning up tummy the pilates way really help for me. The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is sit-ups. Then I jog in the evening for an hour and do another round of sit-ups. I don't have the time to go to the gym lately so I have to stick to these exercises for now. Yup, as Lino mentioned above - you have to be very disciplined to achieve the tummy that you want. Good luck, hun!
brothermartin Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 On my rather long quest for trying to get my self esteem up and increased self worth I ask this. For the first time in years I quite like my body I have great legs, bust, bum, toned arms and shoulders the only thing that I would consider bad is my tummy it sticks out a bit and can be alot bigger by the end of the day (I hate it I mean really hate it). I do exercise alot, and am hoping over time this might assist the tone of my tummy and weight loss a little but do not want to lose lots of weight. Do you expect a girl to be toned and not have any lumps n bumps? Would it bother you if just this one part (tummy) wasn't so good? If she didn't point it out to you would you actually notice? If your about to get down n dirty, do you actually see anything other than matching undies and whats under them? Sorry I know it might seem a stupid question to ask but it really is something that affects my self esteem and can get me down and make me feel like I am not good enough. I cant answer for any other man, but I will answer your questions: 1.No. I like lumps. 2.No. I have my own "imperfections." 3.Yes. I notice everything about a womans body. 4.Oh yes. Everything from head to toe. If this were a perfect world with perfect looking people, we would all get so bored with each other we would start looking for ways to look different. How attractive we our to ourselves really has nothing to do with whether someone else finds us attractive. Think about it: How many times have you been hit on by a guy when you felt like a lump of clay? Stop wondering and just accept it: You're HOT! Even if you dont see it or feel it.
reboot Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 If your tummy covers my nose while you're sitting on my face and prevents me from breathing, then it's a problem. Otherwise, it's not a big deal.
White Flower Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 If your tummy covers my nose while you're sitting on my face and prevents me from breathing, then it's a problem. Otherwise, it's not a big deal. L-O-freaking-L!
tanbark813 Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 As long as your stomach doesn't stick out farther than your boobs then you're good to go.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 As long as your stomach doesn't stick out farther than your boobs then you're good to go. No it doesn't but I do have big boobs?!!?!?! :confused:
Lizzie60 Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 I can't talk for men.. but as far as I'm concerned.. this is my biggest fear... I have a great body, big boobs, nice ass, flat stomach.. and every time I pass in front of the mirror I just have to look if my belly is still flat... I'm obsessed by that... I don't know but I would guess that sit-ups would be good... maybe you should talk to a 'trainer'.
sb129 Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 If your tummy covers my nose while you're sitting on my face and prevents me from breathing, then it's a problem. Otherwise, it's not a big deal. As long as your stomach doesn't stick out farther than your boobs then you're good to go. Or morph into your boobs! BHKS, methinks you are doing just a little too much self- analysis here. I know you are going through a rough time at the moment, but you need to stop being so hard on yourself and looking for reasons to beat yourself up.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 Thanks for the responses, I know what I need to do to improve and am working on it, I am never going to have a totally flat tummy, its just not possible without me seriously going underweight. My question was more as too what is noticed by blokes and it having a lumpy tummy unattractive?
Cobra_X30 Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 On my rather long quest for trying to get my self esteem up and increased self worth I ask this. Sorry I know it might seem a stupid question to ask but it really is something that affects my self esteem and can get me down and make me feel like I am not good enough. I assure you that you look fabulous! I remember the pictures. Besides you dont want any guy who is that shallow!
LexiB Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Besides you dont want any guy who is that shallow! the perfect answer to this question Most ppl of course want the person they're with to be in nice shape but being "perfect" is completely unrealisitic. If you just have a lil bit of a belly, you really dont have anything to worry about - not if you're trying to catch a quality guy. On the other hand, if you just want to change that part of your body for *yourself*, then by all means best of luck with that
brothermartin Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 No it doesn't but I do have big boobs?!!?!?! :confused: Whoa. She said boobs. Whoa:love: I'm not exactly a boob man, I like the bottom-bottoms myself. Hows that?
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 Whoa. She said boobs. Whoa:love: I'm not exactly a boob man, I like the bottom-bottoms myself. Hows that? Could have said tits then we'd have all been in real trouble then I guess
jerbear Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 LOL to the orignal poster, I think what you are doing is fine. working out, being yourself etc... is all good. Most people I know either complain or don't try. I think you are overanalyzing. I think you are fine.
brothermartin Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 LOL to the orignal poster, I think what you are doing is fine. working out, being yourself etc... is all good. Most people I know either complain or don't try. I think you are overanalyzing. I think you are fine. JERBEAR's right hunny, to be serious you maybe are picking yourself apart a little too much. We've seen your pics'. We know what you look like. And we like what we see! Dno ynou unnerstan?
coco_milkshake Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 You are lovely BHKS. I agree with the others that you are over-analysing yourself.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 Yes but its amazing what breathing in or the right clothes can cover up! I'm telling you my belly protrudes I don't like it, am trying to do something about however will never have a flat tummy, never. So I guess my real question if you couldn't see it that well when clothed then got down n dirty or saw body in a bikini would you think its horrible or just concentrate on the better parts like big tits, great toned legs and cellulite free ass n thighs?
coco_milkshake Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 If you have cellulite free ass and thighs you are a lucky girl cos I dont have that luxury lol. Seriously if you are really that conscious about it, what worked with me is walking around with your tummy sucked in cos that is the equivalent of doing sit ups. I have a toned tummy as a result and Im soo used to doing it, its become second nature. I had a 4 pack at one time but only a slight one lol. Do that if you are too lazy to do the actual sit ups though sit ups as well as what I have suggested will help more.
Trialbyfire Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 bhks, if you want to improve yourself, do it. If not, don't. There's no such thing as a woman with universal appeal and perfection for all. All the compliments in the world will not affect how you perceive yourself because then, it becomes a need for constant external validation. Get happy with yourself.
jerbear Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 my view is the overall big picture. in your case I like the boobs and the legs. Add those to your smile, I don't know which head to use. Your tummy would be forgotten. Beside, from my POV, I'll see the top, the bottom, and depending on the position, the back of your head. Come to think of it, I actually like the tummy too. Sometimes a guy can't lay on top of the boobs, the tummy becomes the surrogate.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 If you have cellulite free ass and thighs you are a lucky girl cos I dont have that luxury lol. Seriously if you are really that conscious about it, what worked with me is walking around with your tummy sucked in cos that is the equivalent of doing sit ups. I have a toned tummy as a result and Im soo used to doing it, its become second nature. I had a 4 pack at one time but only a slight one lol. Do that if you are too lazy to do the actual sit ups though sit ups as well as what I have suggested will help more. Cheers darlin, I do that especially if I am in the car or sitting here while working during the day. But will do it more now I know it worked so well for you .
coco_milkshake Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 bhks, if you want to improve yourself, do it. If not, don't. There's no such thing as a woman with universal appeal and perfection for all. All the compliments in the world will not affect how you perceive yourself because then, it becomes a need for constant external validation. Get happy with yourself. Exactly. Do this for yourself more than anything else. Love yourself and get confident about your body.
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