can'tbuyabucket Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 i have been single now for over a year. one reason why is because i am very picky and also because i enjoyed my freedom and the single life. recently i've grown a liking for a certain individual. i'm in my last year of college and no girl that i've met here as caught my eye/given me butterflies. well this special somebody has...only problem is...she has a boyfriend and one of her best friends likes me a lot i think (i have no interest in her though). i know this sounds absurd but my roomate is very close to her and from what i understand, their relationship isn't anything special and the guy kind of seems like a douchebag. for example if they haven't seen each other in awhile, which is usually the case, he'll go out with his boys instead of hang out with her. i dont know him personally and i have nothing against him so i really can't say these things. we hit it off really well, i make her laugh and she thinks i'm entertaining and the first time we met she said "you're cute" with a huge smile on her face. she seems really flirty with me sometimes even when theres other guys around (yet she'll only be flirty with me) so i don't think its just her personality, i honestly feel as though theres chemistry there. i really don't want to be "that guy", because i've been burnt by "that guy" but at the same time it would be nice to finally get what i want. its been awhile.. i am also not a girlfriend stealer and my intentions aren't to break them up. my intentions are to hang out with her more often and show her who i am while simultaneously learning more about who she is. if it leads to something, than wonderful....and if not then thats fine, i can go back to square one. my question is how do i go about doing this in the best way without causing problems. i still want her best friend to be a friend of mine and i don't want hearts being broken left and right. their relationship seems more of the casual type, its fairly new also. i am more afraid that she would resist because of her friend more-so than the bf. thank you for reading.
Author can'tbuyabucket Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 anybody out there have any advice?
melodymatters Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 I'm sorry but i really don't have any good advice for you. People will get hurt if you 'succeed". It sounds like the BF might run it's course on it's own, but then her girlfriend is the problem. I wouldn't date somone my friend liked " first". All you can do is be a pal and hope that she and the BF break up, the GF gets her own BF, and THEN you'll have a clear path ! good luck !
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Yeah hun, don't use the word "Chick" and more women would probably respond
Author can'tbuyabucket Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 ahh you're right...i should have known better!
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