loquaciousl Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 BF and I broke up almost 1 month ago. He dumped me via email...he told me he hadn't been in love for awhile and had placed his feelings on hold for me a few months BEFORE we broke up. He also said he couldn't see me as his one. I am still angry. Not too angry though, more just sad now. I received a nasty text from him after we broke up b/c I deleted him as a friend on m.s. He said, "If it's so easy for you to be this way you never loved me in the first place." Before all of the you know what hit the fan, we were loving, supportive, and caring to one another. He and I had an instant rapport that I haven't felt in a long time. But then over time things got more difficult. I now know that he was distancing himself b/c he didnt feel the same way anymore. Fact is, until all of this came to light, I was in love with him. I loved him. I loved his company. We had our issues, but what couple doesn't.? Now theres a guy who's interested in me....I told him that I'm not ready for anything...I'm too raw. The funny thing is I don't want to be with the ex anymore, I am still really hurt. Some days I feel good and confident, but for example, today I woke up thinking about him and was depressed all day, sleeping a lot and such--I know that isn't healthy but I miss him. Or what we could have had. Help me get over this hump. I have cut off contact with him but I just want to stay strong....and be more confident. I don't want to stay stuck! Help.
Lyssa Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Sorry to hear about your break-up. What I did to get over the break-up was a lot of working out at the gym. Put aside everything that reminded me of him. Spent a lot of time doing things I love, hanging out with family and friends. The normal stuff, you know. I started hanging out at different places to get to know more people and dating as well. That really got me over the break-up and also made me realised that other men can appreciate me more than he ever did. I don't know if that would work for you but I hope it will. You sound like you have handled it all very well... it has only been a month. I'm sure given more time, you'll be stronger.
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