almosthere Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Who has a boyfriend. This girl is possibly a "10." We are both seniors in high school and are friends, but not close enough friends that we hang out outside of school. We didn't talk much till this year. She has had her current boyfriend for probably a month, from what I heard she was dating someone else before him (for a long time) but was afraid to break up with him to date her current bf. That should not be the case here though because her first boyfriend was apparently mentally nuts and she was afraid of what he would do to himself. Also, I think she hung out with her current bf a fair amount while she was still dating the other dude, but she is not one that would cheat. So, how should I go about asking her? What would be a good line, because I don't want to say "date" as that may be uncomfortable. Like, "Would you want to come to ( ) with me?" or something along those lines?? Lastly, I have only gained a decent amount of confidence when talking to her within the past week or two, should I build a relationship a little more before I ask her? Thanks for all the help, it is REALLY appreciated!
Star Gazer Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Why do you want to do this? If she were your GF, would you want another guy asking her out?
Author almosthere Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 Why do you want to do this? If she were your GF, would you want another guy asking her out? Like I said, this is not like a "real" first date, more to hang out than anything. I am not thinking dinner and a movie here, maybe to a basketball game? Also, her boyfriend was around her so much when she was dating the other guy that I thought they were dating. And not that that justifies anything, but he found nothing wrong with it. I have such a strong attraction to this girl that developed over the past two months and I just really want to do something about it by now. It is not just her looks or I would have felt this way much longer. I only had classes/talked to her this year and she is so perfect to me in every way.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Beautiful girls usually don't think they are beautiful. Especially, high school age. Ask her the way you would any other girl or hang with her as friends and then lay a big wet one on her to see her reaction.
Author almosthere Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 Beautiful girls usually don't think they are beautiful. Especially, high school age. Ask her the way you would any other girl or hang with her as friends and then lay a big wet one on her to see her reaction. I think the boyfriend aspect is more important here than her looks, I asked the question poorly.
amerikajin Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Forget it. There is nothing good that can come out of asking out a woman who is dating someone else. Women may flirt with you right in front of their man, but a lot of the time it's just because (at the risk of making a gender-based generalization) women can be insecure and need reassurance that she doesn't need a boob job to get attention from guys. It took me a while to figure this out, but it's the truth. Women with guys may make a guy think they're interest, but 99.999 percent of the time they are absolutely not interested in trading him for you. Sure there are exceptions, but play the odds. The other side to this is, even if you "win", you have an entirely new and different problem to deal with: she's already proven she can just dump her lover for a new man anytime she feels like it, so what makes you think you'd be any different? That's no way to enter into a relationship.
Author almosthere Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 Forget it. There is nothing good that can come out of asking out a woman who is dating someone else. Women may flirt with you right in front of their man, but a lot of the time it's just because (at the risk of making a gender-based generalization) women can be insecure and need reassurance that she doesn't need a boob job to get attention from guys. It took me a while to figure this out, but it's the truth. Women with guys may make a guy think they're interest, but 99.999 percent of the time they are absolutely not interested in trading him for you. Sure there are exceptions, but play the odds. The other side to this is, even if you "win", you have an entirely new and different problem to deal with: she's already proven she can just dump her lover for a new man anytime she feels like it, so what makes you think you'd be any different? That's no way to enter into a relationship. Yea. I know this girl too well though. The issue is not IF she likes me, I am 95% sure she does, its communicating to her that I like her. I really have not indicated much except our nonstop eye contact.
Trimmer Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 .... she is so perfect to me in every way. Oh, man.... The innocence of youth.
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