goodguy15 Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 I know its been 2 years almost I'm dealing with an issue where I can't give enough love to my girlfriend because of hurtful relationships in the past because it is affecting the relationship within.But I can't seem to live upto her expectations.She gives me all the love in world but can't seem to give it back to her because she is not perfect. She thinks I'm so attractive and I never been in such a serious relationship neither has she.I used to give her love all the time when we first met like for the first 1.5 years that we're dating but I'm having a hard time meeting those expectations but she tells me we can go as slow as you want and we have been since she moved into her apartment.She's been living for six months now and still getting used the new things that we've encountered and we went to see our pastor and he told us that we're going in the right direction just worried about having fun and things for that matter cuz we're not anywhere near marriage or anything like that.And I'm afraid of losing her because I don't want to regret it for the rest of my life and her family adores me and even her relatives and nieces and nephews.And she tells me I'm not going to lose her and I tell her the samething but I never knew love can be this hard.
jcster Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 She gives me all the love in world but can't seem to give it back to her because she is not perfect. Are you talking about sex? And what does this statement mean?
Author goodguy15 Posted November 17, 2007 Author Posted November 17, 2007 Are you talking about sex? And what does this statement mean? No not sex we're not ready for that either but we pretend that we do. I go on top of her but we haven't done it in a while because I can't seem to do it anymore.She doesn't have an attractive chest or bottom but I'm afraid to tell her that.it just looks gross and it a turns me off.And doing that suff doesn't feel natural to me anymore.
jcster Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 No not sex we're not ready for that either but we pretend that we do. I go on top of her but we haven't done it in a while because I can't seem to do it anymore.She doesn't have an attractive chest or bottom but I'm afraid to tell her that.it just looks gross and it a turns me off.And doing that suff doesn't feel natural to me anymore. I think that it's time for you to move on, then. If you aren't attracted to her anymore, and you don't feel like you can give her the love that she deserves, then do both of you a favor and stop seeing her. 2 years is a long time to date someone that you haven't even had sex with.
4givrnt4gtr Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Sounds to me like you are both pretty young, probably in your teens right? From what you said...specially the part where her "chest" and "bottom" grosses you out...yeah its definitely time to move on. You cannot be with someone that they, or some part of them, grosses you out. Many young people have long term relationships but it doesnt mean that they are either a. healthy relationships, b. meant to lead to marriage. I know its hard to give up something you've been in for so long, but its better to let her go now, so that she can find someone who is able to love her and find her attractive than to keep on going just because you've been together for so long. Also the whole thing about the relatives...if you both are able to see that is best if you end the relationship, and end it in good terms, in time im sure you can become good friends and continue the good relationship you have with her family. good luck.
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