snap226 Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 I just found out now that my EX of 1.5 weeks broke up with me to get back with his EX. I guess I suspected that was the reason, but to find out for sure really stings me. I want to vent here for a sec if you guys don't mind. We started dating 1.5 years ago when he was still living with her, but not together. They were living together for financial reasons, but neither of them were happy with the arrangement and wanted out and couldn't stand one another. In steps me, I help him find a new job back home (2.5 hours from where they lived together). I also help him physically move. We have basically spent all our time together and were happy as can be. Even his friend and family commented on how they have never seen him so happy as when he was with me. In steps back her. She moves back home to a few months ago. Within this time he becomes more distant to me, and finally breaks it off with me by saying he loves me as a friend, but not attractive to me now. H e said things could not work out between us now, but who knows about the future. I'm so sad right now. I don't undertand why he would want to go back to somebody who treated him like crap and would physically abusive to him, when he had me who went out of my way to help him and we always had a great relationship together. Why would someone want to go back to that. Was I a rebound relationship? Can 1.5 years together be considered a rebound? He told me with me he had everything he wanted. Freedom to be with his friends, was comfortable taking me around frirnds and family, things he couldn't do with her. So why would he give all that up for someone else whom it never works out with? I understand they have a long history together ( on and off for 8 years). But it vever lasts longer than a few months before it falls to crap again for them. What is wrong with this scenario? Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.
cant let go Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 What is wrong with this scenario? HIM. let him sort through his issues. there is nothing that you can do. you can stay in his life as a friend or you can get yourself out of it asap. he is emotionally unstable and not ready to be in a healthy relationship. there is nothing that you can do to save him. sorry to be repetitive. surrender control of the situation and pray. God will help you through this. pray for him. be strong snap, i feel your frustration and helplessness. i'm right here with you.
Author snap226 Posted November 17, 2007 Author Posted November 17, 2007 your right! This is his issue not mine. If he chooses to turn his back on something good for him and healthy and go for something thats not so good for him , then its out of my hands. I just feel so numb right now. Deceived, manipulated, hurt, and angry. It's a cluster of terrible feelings.
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