Phateless Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Danced a bit, talked a bit, flirted a lot. Got her number, and I'm definitely gonna call this one! I'm kind of excited about her. I also met someone pretty cool last night and got her number as well but that will probably end up being a friend thing. I don't think she's interested. Just thought I'd share.
Lyssa Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Wwwoooohhhooooo!!! For you, Phateless! You're single.. you should live it up!
Author Phateless Posted November 17, 2007 Author Posted November 17, 2007 Wwwoooohhhooooo!!! For you, Phateless! You're single.. you should live it up! That's what I'm doing!!!
Author Phateless Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 Wow, you guys are gonna love this... so we've been texting back and forth, mostly her initiating it (i think she's more comfortable with text) and tonight she asked me flat-out "so where do you see this heading?" We haven't hung out since we met and I haven't kissed her yet or anything!! Should I panic? lol...
Author Phateless Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 I don't know... should you??? Well I want to play the field until I'm sure about the girl and I'd prefer not to hurt anyone in the process if I can avoid it... it just seems a little soon to be asking questions like that.
Citizen Erased Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Well I want to play the field until I'm sure about the girl and I'd prefer not to hurt anyone in the process if I can avoid it... it just seems a little soon to be asking questions like that. As long as she meant heading towards another date, maybe two, then I wouldn't be worried. If not, run!
Lyssa Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 As long as she meant heading towards another date, maybe two, then I wouldn't be worried. If not, run! Yup, RUN FAST, Phateless.....
compassion42 Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 I think texting allows us to "say" things we may not normally say in a face to face convo. I wouldn't read too much into it though-she probably is wondering if you will go out on a date or be just friends.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Danced a bit, talked a bit, flirted a lot. Got her number, and I'm definitely gonna call this one! I'm kind of excited about her. I also met someone pretty cool last night and got her number as well but that will probably end up being a friend thing. I don't think she's interested. Just thought I'd share. Good for you hun xxx
oppath Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 I think she was refering to "where do you think this is heading" as in a date with physical interaction (possibly sex), not serious relationship and kids. She was asking "where is this conversation going to go."
Author Phateless Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 I think she was refering to "where do you think this is heading" as in a date with physical interaction (possibly sex), not serious relationship and kids. She was asking "where is this conversation going to go." That makes sense. I dunno, the text before said something about "still trying to figure me out" to which i replied "you don't need to, i'll be straight with you. no games" and then the text i posted about. we left it with us hanging out tonight and seeing what happens. you'll probably have a full report tonight when i'm drunk.
oppath Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I think given that context her statement meant "where is this going to go" as in "are we going to meet up and make out later, or what?"
Author Phateless Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 So you guys think she was only referring to the texting that night and was asking me if I wanted to hang out? I thought she was asking "where is this relationship going?"... You guys are saying she was asking "so where are you going with this?"
oppath Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 So you guys think she was only referring to the texting that night and was asking me if I wanted to hang out? I thought she was asking "where is this relationship going?"... You guys are saying she was asking "so where are you going with this?" Well, she is asking that, though my interpretation is that she is asking "is this conversation, which I enjoy, going to lead to a hot date with you? Maybe ending back at your place?" Maybe not. Maybe she is asking "do you see us as having longterm potential?" But for now, I'd error on the first of those. After all, we all have a tendency to read too much into what someone says.
Author Phateless Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 True... I thought she was asking if our flirtation in general was going to lead to dating. Keep in mind, she is only 20 years old (i thought she was closer to 22 when i met her) so maybe she's afraid of getting taken advantage of/used for sex?
oppath Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Dating means going out on dates. So ask her on a date. You are sensitive enough not to outright use her, and she does have some responsibility if you date, have sex, and it doesn't evolve to bf-gf. Go out with her, and if it feels right, progress sexually. Just be conscious: do you like her? at each step of the way. You can have sex and it's not using her. Sometimes being intimate in that way is part of learning if you are compatible (and not just sexually; you don't know sometimes until you've become more intimate and sex is one way to do that. Not all of sex is sexual.) How old are you? Maybe, being 20, she is concerned about the age difference and doesn't want you to play her. That is valid if you are 26-27, for example, but if you genuinely like her, date her.
Author Phateless Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 Funny you should say that, I turn 27 in december. And yes, that's exactly right. I don't want to play her but I am looking forward to seeing her tonight. She's having a party at her place. The funny thing is, whenever I think about committing to someone I'm not sure about, all I can think of is what other girls are out there to meet. So yeah... we'll see.
Krytie TV Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I would say you shouldn't spend so much time trying to analyze text messages. Texts... kids love to text nowadays...
Author Phateless Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 I would say you shouldn't spend so much time trying to analyze text messages. Texts... kids love to text nowadays... Did you even read the thread? Anyway, got to the party and she wasn't even around the whole time. Lame. Went downtown and got drunk.
Lyssa Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I would say you shouldn't spend so much time trying to analyze text messages. Texts... kids love to text nowadays... Oh Krytie! You're too funny. Your post reminded me of Chrome Barracuda's post on another thread. Did you even read the thread? Anyway, got to the party and she wasn't even around the whole time. Lame. Went downtown and got drunk. Oh bummer! At least you got drunk, hey!
Author Phateless Posted December 2, 2007 Author Posted December 2, 2007 Tonight is the very next night, I got two more numbers tonight. One is a friend of a friend and I got a kiss and she facebooked me as soon as she got home so I'm hoping that goes somewhere, and the other is just this REALLY cute asian girl I met in line at the club. (while the first girl was distracted ) Can't keep me down for long
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