MotherGooze Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 We broke up about a year ago. We were both depressed at the time. I had an abortion and felt so guilty about it, and he tried and be there for me, but I think I needed more help at the time from a professional. He worked really long hours, 12 hours a day wasn't an exception, most of the time ecne longer. Fatigue was really catching up on him and he was feeling down as well. We started arguing every day instead of being there for each other. So after a while we broke up and it really hurt. It took me months of NC to get over him (allthough I still thought about him). And I dated another guy for a few weeks, but it just wasn't the same. 2 months ago, he broke NC. He send me a mail and wondered how I was doing. We mailed every day for two weeks, and then he came over. Me, as a single mom, couldn't go out easy, so he just came to my house because that was the easy way. We became friends, but I kinda fell in love with him again and he fell in love with me too. I never thought that would happen! So since last week, we're back together, and I don't know how things will work out. He has a great job now, with good hours, so he has lot's of time. I'm still thinking about the abortion, but I think I can accept it better now, what I did. I also have a better job, that i really love. We're both happy, and actually I don't feel any hesitation. That's the story short, I guess you can find my posts around here if you search I really think it's gonna work out this time. My friends think I'm crazy Are there any similar stories around here? Did it work out?
lovesparis Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 your story gives me hope... (not that i don't have enough of my own) thank you. good luck.
qwertyu Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 so lucky! so you actually NC-ed for about 8 months? strictly no contact at all? didnt even see each other?
Author MotherGooze Posted November 17, 2007 Author Posted November 17, 2007 nope, I didn't even see each other. i forced myself to even avoid places where I could see him at first, but when I was at one of those places I didn't see him anyway. I don't know what will happen next of course, I'm still a bit carefull. I've never been so hurt in my life because of him, but I guess, I hurt him too. We've both changed, but our love has grown, that's what I think.
sedgwick Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 I don't think it sounds crazy at all! Let me tell you the story of my college roommates... We'll call her A, him S. S liked me at first but I was after someone else and not really interested in him as anything but a friend. A was always hanging out with me and told me one day she had a crush on S. I encouraged her to tell him, she did, they got together, S and I became good friends, and later we all ended up being roommates with another friend of ours in a big house (I know, bizarre, but it was a blast.) Anyway, our senior year of college, A got pregnant and had an abortion, largely because S was so freaked out. He, too, was working ridiculous hours and totally exhausted. They moved to LA together after we got out of school, but not long after they moved, they broke up. She started dating someone else she met at her job, a rich older man, and S was totally devastated, even though he was the one who initiated the breakup. A year later they got back together. Last month I got a wedding announcement from them, and now they are trying to have a baby. (Incidentally, she's 38 and he's 37.) So they turned out to have a very happy story, and a very long-term, loving relationship. Good luck to you. Damn, I'd give anything if my ex would just SPEAK to me!!
Author MotherGooze Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 Whoa that's indeed crazy, but I'm happy for them You know the best advice that I can give is the advice that no one wants to hear I guess. Move on, try to happy by yourself. That what I did. In our relationship I was really clingy, because of my insecurity. During our one year break, I took the time to do something about my insecurity. For me, not for anybody else. I'm still insecure, but it's a whole lot better. I'm not jealous easely anymore too.
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