Is she a friend?

[sadie2]

Hello,

 

I have a "friend" who I've invited her and her husband for dinner. Well, I got hurt so we postponed it a week. Then when I call her several times to confirm the next weeks dinner, she never returns my call, or email, then as I finally reach her two days before, she states her and her husband are going to go play the slots and not come to dinner. She then asked if she could postpone it for a couple more weeks. Do I call her back in a couple of weeks or totally forget asking again?

 

Thanks

[Geishawhelk]

I think this isn't the issue. I think the issue is why you got hurt in the first place.

Resolve that, one way or another, then you'll know whether dinner is still on or not.

[sadie2]

I had hurt my back so had to postpone the dinner. I'm sorry, I didn't explain it better. However, when her and her husband lived near us in our neighborhood, I would ask her over for coffee. Sometimes she would come over. But, when they decided to move----she would find excuses as to why she could never spend time with me. She has said I was her best friend. If someone is a best friend---they would enjoy spending time getting to know you. I really can't say I know her nor does she know me.

I don't know whether to continue to pursue this friendship or be done with it. I have made both her daughters afghans for their babies--her grandbabies. I feel I have given but never have received. I am just frustrated. Thanks for your reply but I hope this shed some more light on my original post.

[Cheery Cherry]

Hmmm, do you enjoy spending time with her? Is she generally a nice person? It sounds to me like you two are maybe growing apart and you're looking for a way out. I would put the ball in her court and say that she is welcome to join you for dinner in a couple of weeks or anytime and that you understand things come up so you won't plan a dinner date until you hear from her but to give you a few days notice. If she calls, she calls, if not, assume that she is busy with other things.