OceanBlue Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 I'm done. I give up... I've been through a some really bad dates and finally thought I found a good one. So I did everything the way I thought it should be done... I was open about my age (10+ yrs older) from the first meeting. I was open about having kids. I told him my concern with the different stages of life we were in. Then I let him digest all that...and he came back 10 days later adamant that he wanted to date me...said we would just see where it goes. We waited 6 weeks before we had sex. And it was great. Then a few weeks later it seems like he's getting "involved". We had already discussed exclusivity. Now he's using the relationship word. 2 days after that, he hasn't called so I call him (since we had plans). He's forgotten...can we reschedule. It was kind of awkward for a few minutes, then I pushed it. Bottom line, after much discussion (and what sounded suspiciously like tears on his side), he doesn't think it is right. It won't work. We are in different stages of life. He's starting to really care for me. And that's a huge problem. That wasn't "supposed" to happen. How the h*ll do you expect to date someone and not start to care for them? Can guys really do that? And then he wants to be friends. Ummm...no. I can't be friends with someone whom I still want to be with. I told him not to bother calling me again, unless he decides he can put being hurt on the line. That's what I did. I closed my brain to the logical part that was saying don't do this...it won't work. I took a chance and now I am alone again. and not because he hates me and I am a b*tch...but because he was starting to care for me too much. Life sucks.
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