steddie Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 There is an amazing girl who I work with who was flirting with me, because its work I didn't want things to be brought out into the work so I asked her out. She seemed really pleased and even thanked me. She said she would think about and come back to me which is fine. But its now been 2 weeks. We still chat and get on as if I never asked her out. I do trust her but its really starting to hurt and I dont know what to do.
Author steddie Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Can someone please help me with this, its getting me depressed.
jerbear Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Kiss her then go from there. DON'T do it while at work. She is keeping you around and still talking, take her out on a date. Goto a dance hall then place one of your hands on her butt during a slow dance and yet still be a gentleman.
shenandoah Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Ok advice from me... I'd ask her. I'd just take her to one side and say "hey, you know i gave you my number right, well is everything okay with that, i didn't make you feel awkward about it- if you want to call, cool, if you don't then that's fine too- no pressure.." just remind her that its there. Kissing her is too full on too soon. Even if a guy i liked did that right away i'd be like "whoa!"
D-Lish Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Two weeks is nothing. She may just be afraid of dating someone she works with. Everyone knows that can cause complications. If I didn't like someone- I wouldn't remain in communication with them. I think it's safe to infer she is contemplating it. No one likes games... but might I suggest sort of becoming slightly distant for a little bit? When you pull back a little, she'll wonder why and that will get her thinking about pursuing you. I know it sucks to think about games... but a little space/reduced contact will get her thinking....and might help her to make up her mind quicker. If you're always there being friendly- she knows you like her and doesn't feel pressured to make a move. Talk to other women you work with- maybe take breaks or do lunch with them- don't appear to be flirting with them...just appear to be having a good time, and appear unphased by her inability to make a decision. the more you act uninterested- the more interested they become. It's human nature. ;-)
D-Lish Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Two weeks is nothing. She may just be afraid of dating someone she works with. Everyone knows that can cause complications. If I didn't like someone- I wouldn't remain in communication with them. I think it's safe to infer she is contemplating it. No one likes games... but might I suggest sort of becoming slightly distant for a little bit? When you pull back a little, she'll wonder why and that will get her thinking about pursuing you. I know it sucks to think about games... but a little space/reduced contact will get her thinking....and might help her to make up her mind quicker. If you're always there being friendly- she knows you like her and doesn't feel pressured to make a move. Talk to other women you work with- maybe take breaks or do lunch with them- don't appear to be flirting with them...just appear to be having a good time, and appear unphased by her inability to make a decision. the more you act uninterested- the more interested they become. It's human nature. ;-)
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