SusanChess Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I was supposed to call the guy I like on Monday so that he could help me with a project for school, and didn't. It's now the end of the week and I still haven't called him. (I've been busy and haven't gotten around to working on the project myself, plus I've got a lot of of other stuff going on.) I know I'll either see him or talk to him tomorrow, what should I do? He seemed pretty excited about me calling him and him helping me, and the last time I did something like this I think he got pretty upset.
Kamille Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Well not calling when you say you will is never a good thing, but it's not a terrible screw up. If he's healthy though, he'll have to read it as a sign that you're just not that interest in him. So, if you are interested in him, why didn't you call?
Author SusanChess Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Honestly I just ran out of time and was concentrating on another class this week. And I got nervous.
oppath Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Honestly I just ran out of time and was concentrating on another class this week. And I got nervous. Being nervous is understandable, but all you would have had to do is call or text him "I'm concentrating on another class this week and it is crazy; see you this weekend." I had a girl cancel on me on Wednesday, and I naively counteroffered for Sunday (when I will be free), but supposedly she is going to Hawaii that day. If she hadn't texted me saying "soon" and again later Wednesday night saying "again, I am sorry for canceling" she'd be completely blown off. As it is, I will go out with her IF she contacts me when she gets back. The point is: at least she texted me. That shows she has some interest, if only lukewarm. It only takes 5 minutes and while it is weak sauce, if you want to recover from being flakey, you need to simply say "thinking about you" in some way.
Author SusanChess Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Great. So how do I recover now that it's really to late to call? I mean, it's kind of silly to do that now since I know I'll talk to him this weekend anyway. Just be extra nice?
oppath Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Just say, "sorry I didn't call. Lame of me! I got busy on another project, but I'd still like to work with you. How is monday night?" Or text him before you see him saying "you'll be there tomorrow, right? See you blah blah" Note: this depends on context, is he supposed to be there, or does he have to be there. If it is a football game, just say "I'm excited for the game. See you there."
Cobra_X30 Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Great. So how do I recover now that it's really to late to call? I mean, it's kind of silly to do that now since I know I'll talk to him this weekend anyway. Just be extra nice? You hav'nt really said if you like the guy... or in what capacity you want to have a relationship in. If he got upset before that means he probably had some feeling for you. The only way you can recover is by promising something, and then fulfilling that promise, multiple times, and hopefully in rapid succession. That will more than likely fix any short term damage.
sderenzi Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 This is the most confusing post I've ever read you have not screwed up because you haven't even done anything yet, not calling him is inaction and by definition cannot be defined as "doing something". If you weren't doing anything then you couldn't possibly have screwed it up now could you Go have fun and relax, you're way to stressed up about this stuff.
sderenzi Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 This is the most confusing post I've ever read you have not screwed up because you haven't even done anything yet, not calling him is inaction and by definition cannot be defined as "doing something". If you weren't doing anything then you couldn't possibly have screwed it up now could you Go have fun and relax, you're way to stressed up about this stuff.
Author SusanChess Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 This is the most confusing post I've ever read you have not screwed up because you haven't even done anything yet, not calling him is inaction and by definition cannot be defined as "doing something". If you weren't doing anything then you couldn't possibly have screwed it up now could you Go have fun and relax, you're way to stressed up about this stuff. Actually I talked to him this weekend and he was really chipper and playful until I brought up not calling. Then his voice went "flat." So, I'm thinking he was really pissed. But we did manage to work out a specific time for me to call, so hopefully it works out . . . he didn't seem terribly convinced that I'm really going to call him though.
oppath Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Then you have to call when you say you will!
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