Jamian Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Hi Everyone I have now accepted that Myself and ex fiance will not get back together. However I am tortured with thoughts of my fiance meeting or being intimate with someone else. I know I should try to block these thoughts out, but I'm struggling to find activities or things to do to take my mind off it all and her. We broke up a month ago, but tried to date a fortnight ago until my ex abruptly killed it off last Sunday night. I shouldn't have agreed to go on a date with her as al of the feelings I innitially had a month ago have resurfaced and even worse this time around. Can someone give me hint or tips on how to try to move on and forget this difficult time and the emotional pain I'm going through?
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I am having similar issues now, so understand your pain hun. There are some useful things written on my thread, from some wise people having similar or had similar problems. To say anymore right now would be contradictory but know you are not alone and your pain understood. {{{{{hugs}}}}
ImaManDammit Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I have the exact same thoughts and I am just off less than a week from my relationship. You need to rebuild your life, and that starts with a network of friends and family. You then need to ask yourself, "what have I always wanted to try and never had the chance to?" I've take a cooking class, went back to the gym, signed up for some evening classes at the unviersity. Joined a club or two. At the same time you have to work on being content or at the very least comfortable being alone sometimes. Reality is one day she is going to sleep with someone else. At the same time don't you plan to as well? I'm sure neither of you are going to remain celebate for the rest of your lives now, just because it didn't work out? So you can't think about it because it will eat you up inside. What I did, and may not work for some, is accept the fact she has already slept with someone else (een though I don't know that for sure). So I let let myself feel anger and the pain, but then got back to my routine. Not to say I won't be feeling like you months from now, but I am trying my best to forget her, and move on with my life. Hope this helps.
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