xxscarredxx Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 It's been almost a week since I've seen him.. I don't want to anymore. A few days ago I used his toothbrush to clean my ceiling fan, threw that and his sandals that he kept under my bed away. Today as i sat in traffic from my way home from work, he sent me 2 text messages... one askin' if he could come over, and the next asked if i was still going to continue to ignore him; which neither of those texts recieved a reply from me. He sugar coats every answer he gives me when i ask him a question, like, i asked him if he was happy with the situation that we are in. He says, "it has its ups and downs". I don't like the situation, and i told him before that if he didn't have a plan for me and him to be together, then to leave me alone. Now since it's been a week since i've seen him, i'm going thru withdraw. I'm literally holding myself back from texting him and tellin' him to come over... to at least satisfy my sexual needs. I don't want him and really don't need him. Really he's been nothing but a burden to me... he wrecked my car back in August, his wife has called me (forcing me to change my number), before he transferred away from where we both worked at, he'd scare away our other co-workers from talking to me.. not to mention he basically let everyone know that we were seeing each other. I regret ever giving into his charm and luring me into what i find to be the most miserable 1/2 assed relationship of my life. I don't respond to his text messages, i haven't called him, blocked him from my myspace page, and got rid of the few things that he left at my apartment, but i can't get him out of my mind. I just want to be free from this...
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Go a step further and block him so you don't get any text messages. So, there really is NO good reason to for you to get back with him - Sex wise, use a vibe or a shower massager.....Other than that, forget him! Keep busy and be with your friends and family.
White Flower Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I think I'll get me one of those shower massagers...I'm leaving H and ending the A...
Gwyneth Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Oh boy, I have been there with this current MM and my ex-boyfriend. I'm weak, so it never worked. More power to you if you can be strong enough, and please, let me know how you keep yourself from contacting him because I'd like to know the secret LOL for using his toothbrush for cleaning your fan
White Flower Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 It's been almost a week since I've seen him.. I don't want to anymore. A few days ago I used his toothbrush to clean my ceiling fan, threw that and his sandals that he kept under my bed away. Today as i sat in traffic from my way home from work, he sent me 2 text messages... one askin' if he could come over, and the next asked if i was still going to continue to ignore him; which neither of those texts recieved a reply from me. He sugar coats every answer he gives me when i ask him a question, like, i asked him if he was happy with the situation that we are in. He says, "it has its ups and downs". I don't like the situation, and i told him before that if he didn't have a plan for me and him to be together, then to leave me alone. Now since it's been a week since i've seen him, i'm going thru withdraw. I'm literally holding myself back from texting him and tellin' him to come over... to at least satisfy my sexual needs. I don't want him and really don't need him. Really he's been nothing but a burden to me... he wrecked my car back in August, his wife has called me (forcing me to change my number), before he transferred away from where we both worked at, he'd scare away our other co-workers from talking to me.. not to mention he basically let everyone know that we were seeing each other. I regret ever giving into his charm and luring me into what i find to be the most miserable 1/2 assed relationship of my life. I don't respond to his text messages, i haven't called him, blocked him from my myspace page, and got rid of the few things that he left at my apartment, but i can't get him out of my mind. I just want to be free from this... Damn! Forgive my French, but he sounds just lovely. OK, forgive my sarcasm. DTMFA--this acronym came from one of my charming coworkers and it means: Dump the Mother F----- Already! Good luck sweetie.
Ms. Red Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Damn! Forgive my French, but he sounds just lovely. OK, forgive my sarcasm. DTMFA--this acronym came from one of my charming coworkers and it means: Dump the Mother F----- Already! Good luck sweetie. DTMFA...LoL. Thanks for the description for that acronym. I've been a lurker reading for quite a while & still can't figure out some of the acronyms. When I first saw yours I thought, "oh no, that one is waaay to long to figure out. LoL
Ms. Red Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I forgot to say to Scarred: You can do it! Think of one of the most painful moments you had with him. When a text or phone call comes through from him bring up that moment in your head & remember why you are doing this. You'll feel stronger with each day that passes. I just ended a 14 year friendship with a guy that would lie to me about stupid 5hit. It was really hard to not take his calls this week. But I thought of all the times he failed to show or call when he said he would & how he came up with a stupid story as an excuse. That gave me the attitude to NOT answer the phone. IDK, this may not help but if it does, great! I wish you well.
LoisLane Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I don't why women let themselves get into situations like this and come crying to get over it later. If you know he's married, just don't get involve. Why is that so hard to do?? Clearly he doesn't give a cow's a$$ about you or any OW. If he did, he would have been by your side and you wouldn't have to 'try to move on'!!
Lyssa Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I'm sure you have never been in a situation like OP's or in the shoes of an OW so that is why you don't understand why some women are involved with a MM. Those who are not involved will never understand or get it. Just as much I didn't understand in the beginning why some BWs are still with their cheating Hs BUT that is their prerogative, just as much as it is OW's. Please take a look around first before you pass any comments.
lonelybird Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 , but i can't get him out of my mind. I just want to be free from this... you have lots of anger toward him. maybe read some good stories, real stories about how a man treat his parner with respect and genuine love, about what is true love, read more and more; and realize you deserve the same, then you will be able to throw him out
PLAYBRAT Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 To Lois Lane: SOME OW didn't KNOW the man was married until they were found out... OR ike me, I have known my MM long BEFORE he got married. I respect his R. That does not mean my feelings are going to simply disappear BECAUSE he is now married. I used to have the same judgemental attitude YOU do before this situation happened and now I realize it's not that cut and dry. I WISH it were... The thing is...it OK to have feeelings...but you CAN control how you ACT on them. THAT is the difference..and something I constantly struggle with.
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