goodguy15 Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I can't break up with her it just makes me think if I do that she'll be heart broken and for me I'll be back to square one.I just don't see it happening becuase we get along so well and have fun together but when you can't afford to go out on dates as much as we used to it does get hard to make up things to do.Living in a small town of 8,000.And how do you really keep that spark alive despite all the difficulties in life? It just feels I can't give my girlfriend love that she wants because she puts so much heart and soul in this relationship and I don't understand why she has to have expectations so high when i can't meet her needs.She looks into my eyes and sees love but i can't say it yet.At the beginning of our relationship things were exciting and sometimes it was going so fast that we couldn't slow down at all and now we do.It seems she can't live without me and it did scare me. Tell me what you guys think?
Lauriebell82 Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I can't break up with her it just makes me think if I do that she'll be heart broken and for me I'll be back to square one.I just don't see it happening becuase we get along so well and have fun together but when you can't afford to go out on dates as much as we used to it does get hard to make up things to do.Living in a small town of 8,000.And how do you really keep that spark alive despite all the difficulties in life? It just feels I can't give my girlfriend love that she wants because she puts so much heart and soul in this relationship and I don't understand why she has to have expectations so high when i can't meet her needs.She looks into my eyes and sees love but i can't say it yet.At the beginning of our relationship things were exciting and sometimes it was going so fast that we couldn't slow down at all and now we do.It seems she can't live without me and it did scare me. Tell me what you guys think? Wait i'm confused. Is your gf upset because you can't say "I love you?" i guess i'm confused about what your asking here.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Wait i'm confused. Is your gf upset because you can't say "I love you?" i guess i'm confused about what your asking here. Well, i can't say i love you yet but i do say i miss you though.And I said i loved her once because things were going so fast because it was exciting and i don't know if i did the right thing or not.But now I regret saying i love you so soon and i should of waited and would been more special.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Well, i can't say i love you yet but i do say i miss you though.And I said i loved her once because things were going so fast because it was exciting and i don't know if i did the right thing or not.But now I regret saying i love you so soon and i should of waited and would been more special. Um, ok but you've been together 2 years! I think thats plenty of time, dont you? Do you love your gf at this very moment? if you do, then tell her! Who cares when you said it before or havn't said it. Your making too big of a deal out of this i think.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Um, ok but you've been together 2 years! I think thats plenty of time, dont you? Do you love your gf at this very moment? if you do, then tell her! Who cares when you said it before or havn't said it. Your making too big of a deal out of this i think. She said i love you too then i said i love you but i had no idea she was joking with me at the time.But then again i said i love you like 10 weeks after we started dating.But how can say I love you when i don't mean it?I love her at this moment but it's difficult for me to say it in person and I said once on the phone and i shocked her by that.And one more I can't hold hands with her cuz It feels like getting more sensitive or touchy by the day.Then she rubs her tumb on top of my hand and it goes right through and i'm not used to that yet. Let me know what you think?
curiousnycgirl Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I stand by what I wrote in your previous post where you stated that you did not find her attractive, primarily due to her disability. You need to set her free to meet someone who can give her what she needs and deserves.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I stand by what I wrote in your previous post where you stated that you did not find her attractive, primarily due to her disability. You need to set her free to meet someone who can give her what she needs and deserves. Hmm well you didn't mention that she had a disability or that you weren't attracted to her, but now I agree with curiousnycgirl..just let her go so she can find someone who can really love her and give her the affection she wants.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Well, I said i wasn't physically attracted to her but I am attracted to her personality.She has a very pretty face.But when she dresses up nice she is attractive.
curiousnycgirl Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 You like her, but you cannot see yourself to love her. She deserves someone who can love her. You keep asking the same question - but don't like the answer, so why bother asking?
Author goodguy15 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Ok, sometimes i can't handle the truth.But how do i really handle to love someone else if somethin similar happens again.What do you think that i'm a loser cuz of losing 2 jobs which wasn't my fault.Theres somethings I just can't handle.we met for a reason and im not sure what it is, we did meet online through mesanger but we never talked in highschool until now but we saw eachother but that was it.Her dad was saying that i wasn't good enough for her but that made me mad cuz I won't be good enough for anyone else, then.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Ok, sometimes i can't handle the truth.But how do i really handle to love someone else if somethin similar happens again.What do you think that i'm a loser cuz of losing 2 jobs which wasn't my fault.Theres somethings I just can't handle.we met for a reason and im not sure what it is, we did meet online through mesanger but we never talked in highschool until now but we saw eachother but that was it.Her dad was saying that i wasn't good enough for her but that made me mad cuz I won't be good enough for anyone else, then. Ok, if you aren't physically attracted to her and can't tell her you love her then why in the world are you with her? Do you have that low self-esteem? You really need to break up with this girl before you really end up hurting her.
curiousnycgirl Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 There is a lot of truth to the concept that no one can love you until you love yourself. The converse is true as well you will not be ready for a truly loving, committed relationship until you love yourself. You seem very unhappy with yourself and you need to work on that before you aggressively pursue a new relationship. What are your interests and hobbies? Where do you find your feelings of self worth? You appear to tie your self worth to your job, and appear to be defensive that you were laid off twice, why is that? What did you do in response to being laid off? I would assume you found new work, so why should you worry about that counting against you? Hope that helps.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 There is a lot of truth to the concept that no one can love you until you love yourself. The converse is true as well you will not be ready for a truly loving, committed relationship until you love yourself. You seem very unhappy with yourself and you need to work on that before you aggressively pursue a new relationship. What are your interests and hobbies? Where do you find your feelings of self worth? You appear to tie your self worth to your job, and appear to be defensive that you were laid off twice, why is that? What did you do in response to being laid off? I would assume you found new work, so why should you worry about that counting against you? Hope that helps. The first job I got laid off was lack of work and the company was going downhill and then the second job they let me go because it was a three man job I couldn't keep up with the tasks that were given to me but only 5 weeks to show them i can do it and it was too fast paced for me.Right now i'm struggling to even find a job.I like football and baseball, arts and crafts putting models togethr spend time with family during the holidays.Things were going great when i was working but now everything is getting difficult.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Ok, if you aren't physically attracted to her and can't tell her you love her then why in the world are you with her? Do you have that low self-esteem? You really need to break up with this girl before you really end up hurting her. Welll, shes waiting for me to say to her and when I mean it but I haven't.She loves me for me I try to love her back and show her that I love her I'm better at showing than saying it.I do have low self-esteem cuz I was happy at my last job and my life until they let me go.And everything went down hill since then.it was such a shocker i was even pissed that i forgot my equipment.
JCD Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I think the reason you can't say you love her is because you really don't love her. You have to be attracted to her and also like her personality. You can't have one or the other, you need to find both in a person.
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