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faux recovery as a coping method?


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Saw this comment posted somewhere in response to a lady finding out her husband cheated again after extensive marriage counseling and years of renewed "love" between them.

 

Rings true to me.

 

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I recently have come to the conclusion that there is a big percentage of cheaters who do not ever "get it" like they may even lead us to believe once their affair is revealed. All the "work" that they do to repair things is just a sham, a coping exercise on their part to smooth things over so their world is not overturned. This applies to both men and women that cheat, btw.

 

So when we see our spouses having another affair, or more details are revealed that shock us, instead of thinking they have backslid, we should realize that they have just messed up on their cover story. There has been no attempt at recovery, they like their infidelities. They just are not so good at keeping the secret -- secret.

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I could certainly see this being the case.

 

Just my opinion.

 

Interested in hearing what others have to say.

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I'm sure that's true.... sometimes. Maybe a lot. I don't think it's always true.

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