XxBacktoBlackXx Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 I feel really confused right now. To give some background information, I've recently been dating someone for just a month. I was in an abusive relationship previously and in a not so great one before that. I thought I was ready to start dating again. This new relationship has gone really well so far but has moved really fast for not being a very long relationship. I thought being in this relationship would bring me joy and at first it did. I didn't think to rely on it for all of my happiness, because I know happiness comes from within, but I think relationships can enhance the joy in your life. Anyway, I wonder if I moved into this too fast. Quickly, the feelings of joy have pervaded into feelings of fear. I have a major fear of abandonment and some of the worst things sometimes flow through my mind. He has already told me he loves me and I wonder if he is just saying that. I wonder after our last meeting if he is going to leave me. I wonder if maybe we moved into this too fast. I also wonder if I would be better off being single but I feel like it's too late for that, as we both seem to have strong feelings for the other. As I said, we both already exchanged the love word, although he told me he loved me after knowing me for 2 months...I don't know what to do. I am just really scared. Does this mean I'm not ready to be in a relationship? Or does it just mean I need to work on my fears??
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 I don't mean to be annoying, but I hope someone will give me their opinions. Also, I now have private messaging (finally), so feel free to send me a PM, too. Thank you.
Star Gazer Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I have crazy a$$ fears of abandonment as well. Unfortunately I don't have any advice on how to curb those fears other than to just give the relationship AND the guy TIME to prove themselves to you.
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