AngeloWolfe Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Again, a little off the wall. I love and live for romance. I love to show affection, do silly things to make her smile, etc. But is it possible that I am doing too much? In example, today is thursday. Nothing special about it - just a regular day. But.. when she went to lunch today I snuck a big vase full of roses and an 'I Love You' card on her desk just for a random surprise. She loved it so much, you can always tell. I'm training in Desktop Publishing at the moment, adn whenever I have free time (which is every other day) I find myself making her silly pictures to show affections, all sorts of neat little things. It all adds up to saying 'I love you' at the end of the day. To be blunt, the reason I brought this up to topic is we've become a very serious relationship. Starting to get ready for things to happen. I just want to know giving out my heart and affection, saying I Love You 2000 times a day to each other... nothing wrong with it, is there?
Krytie TV Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 You'll get an array of responses. In my opinion though, there is such a thing as overdoing it. I have leanred that it's better to do it occasionally and really mean than to lessen the impact by doing it all the time. The less often you do it, the more impact it will have. I'm not saying go months at a time without doing it but just try to chill on it a bit. Maybe once a week do something nice like you do... maybe even once every couple of weeks. Women will probably tell you they love it when you do it daily. Even the women that got tired of it in my past had once told me they loved it all the time. They only thought they did until they came to expect it or stopped caring about it so much.
Star Gazer Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 How long have you been dating? Love the roses, love all the 'little things', but saying ILU 2,000 times a day is a bit much, IMO.
amaysngrace Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I'd rather be shown I'm loved than told. But that's just me. Yeah I think there is such a thing as overkill. I wouldn't want gifts from my guy every day. It would take all the specialness out of it. I like being surprised.
dkmyfilet Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I'm actually going through something very similar at the moment. I've been dating a guy for almost 3 months and everything is wonderful except that he has been telling me from the getgo how he feels about me. He repeats himself over and over, in person, in emails and on the phone about how much he misses me, how he just loves everything about me, how much he cares for me, and on and on and on, like 10 times a day! Then when he says these things, I feel like I have to say them back to him, but for the most part I resist, because I don't feel like just talking about that all the time. I want the relationship to develop on all levels. Its just too much. I'm a quiet person. And I'm not needy or insecure. Once a day would be enough for me. Its definitely overkill and not necessary at all.
Dynamo Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Again, a little off the wall. I love and live for romance. I love to show affection, do silly things to make her smile, etc. But is it possible that I am doing too much? In example, today is thursday. Nothing special about it - just a regular day. But.. when she went to lunch today I snuck a big vase full of roses and an 'I Love You' card on her desk just for a random surprise. She loved it so much, you can always tell. I'm training in Desktop Publishing at the moment, adn whenever I have free time (which is every other day) I find myself making her silly pictures to show affections, all sorts of neat little things. It all adds up to saying 'I love you' at the end of the day. To be blunt, the reason I brought this up to topic is we've become a very serious relationship. Starting to get ready for things to happen. I just want to know giving out my heart and affection, saying I Love You 2000 times a day to each other... nothing wrong with it, is there? Just ask yourself this: If you were on the receiving end of this treatment, how long would it be till you got sick of it? If your partner showered you with little gifts, compliments, and constantly told you multiple times a day how much they loved you / needed you, wouldn't it get tiring after awhile? I know it would for me - This is coming from a guy, but I completely understand what the girls in this thread mean by saying doing it less shows you care more. It's more special that way. Goodluck! I know how you feel where you just want to shower your affection on her; I'm a very affectionate person myself, but you also got to remember she is a human being just like you, and that she'll probably get sick and tired of it after long enough.
Pedigree Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 I love to show affection, do silly things to make her smile, etc. But is it possible that I am doing too much? It depends on what you're doing. If you want to do something simple like make her laugh, by all means. But if you want to do things like giving her random gifts etc. you might want some moderation. Giving random gifts now and again will be worth a lot more than giving random gifts everyday.
Racquel Colette Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Yeah, sometimes you have to get past the wining and dining and get to know the person for who they really are. It takes more than roses to develop love and strong feelings for another person. Right now it may feel like love, but you have not gotten to the "real" stage. I'm not saying it's not love, it very well might be...but it will take time. As far as showing affection be yoruself, but the roses should get you by for a while. Flowers are awesome and romantic. Maybe next time, though, make it more personalized....a favorite pastry from her favorite bakery, an mp3 song of a group she is into....maybe something cute or quirky that has come up in your talks and getting to know each other. Something that doesn't have to cost much and be a 'grand' romantic gesture, just showing that you pay attention to what she likes. A good example is a guy I dated 8 years ago. I mentioned on the 1st date that I liked 70's music. He asked what my favorite 70s song was and I said the Magnet and Steel song (very cheesy love song). A few dates later he had picked up a 70's Collection CD, you know the kind you can buy at the checkout of a gas station? It had the Magnet and Steel song on it! It was very personalized and funny.
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