My Life Sux More Than URS

November 15, 2007

Yes it's true. I won't bother whining about things I want help with, instead I'll tell you all about myself in detail for laugh, hopefully you do.

This is the first post I'm making, I can't see why I'd make any others (since I'm completely undesirable) but even so I wanna say hi first

I'm 27 years old, or will be on April 8th. I'm a virgin and probably always will be, that just makes me feel terrible btw. I've grown up in the good state of Illinois (sometimes called Hellinois) where I had wonderful chances to see girls in gym class jumping up and down like the whores they are, oops that's bitterness talking

Throughout high school I tried fitting in, my life was a waste from the start and it didn't change for me during those years. I had a few girls I liked, one was in my computer class. She had black hair and was very sweet, one day I asked her if I could call her sometime to which her reply was "I don't have a phone." Me being the nice and generally stupid fellow I was believed her. Later that day I heard some girl in art class laughing about this guy who asked her out, she used the same exact line on him. I felt ill hearing this, not only that but the way they laughed about it was so sickening to me I wanted to die and never return to this life (to bad I did).

I never asked someone else out after that, I waited, I thought it was pointless. As time passed I graduated and then someday met this girl at Borders, she was pretty hot. I saw her working at the coffee area so approached and ordered a drink. I then chatted with her abit and tried making pleasant conversation, she was nice and fun, chatty, etc. She made my drink and I continued talking to her, it was then she said "so why are you still talking to me?" I said "well I thought you might wanna go out sometime." She said "umm what do you mean, as friends?" I said "no I meant like on a date." She was like "well I have a boyfriend but you're very sweet."

Many of you would say that was a good attempt, in my eyes it was a complete waste. She'd just finished a 10 minute conversation of how she was knew to the area, this girl had the nerve to lie to my face and say she had suddenly found a bf? I felt even more ill at this incident and decided not to waste time chasing fools (which girls are). Since then I've tried my best to be friendly towards ladies but never think much of dating them, I have 0 friends anyways so it's not like they'd be interested.

As time passed I met a girl named Carmen, she was very fun and nice but the trouble is she was married. It seemed she had a rough time of things with her husband and had cheated on him, not once but many times. Still the fool I am I tried to be nice and friendly, eventually though she just slept with some jerk and I was wrote a long note about how I couldn't merely be a friend. She wanted someone to be her boytoy and I've learned that when this happens run the other way.

I've never had sex with anyone, I've never dated anyone, I've basically got no friends. My life is non-existent and you guys / girls here have better things going on than I ever shall. When you sleep with multiple people I sit here and wonder HOW, when you cheat with someone I wonder HOW, this is my nature for I am worthlessness incarnate.

Recently there's been a hot girl that comes into this office, she's sending out some photographs she takes of weddings. I've managed to talk with her and learn some details about her life. She owns her own business, she's always working, she seems to have few friends and she has a sense of humour similar to mine. The first time we met she said I had a mischievious smile, unfortunately she didn't realize it was because I had been undressing her with my eyes the whole time

I've been able to ascertain she most likely has no bf, she seems more interested in work than romance. Well I figured I better formerlly introduce myself just to let her know I liked her abit, I said "my names Sam by the way." to which her reply was "Why don't you wear your nametag." I think she meant for me to say something witty like "because I only want you to know my name." but I didn't, all I could think was "because I don't want to wear my nametag." She seems pretty pleased when we speak and smiles alot but you guys know what? IT'S ALL COMPLETELY MEANINGLESS AND POINTLESS

That's right, this situation doesn't mean anything, it has no substance or usefullness. The girl is out there right now and doesn't think even in her subconsious mind about me, she probably will forget my name by the next time. So it is with all women I have 0 chance, 0 allure, and 0 anything. I'd prefer death but this is meaningless also since I feel dead inside already. Everyone here who has a relationship relish it, lust in it, do whatever you like because I can't. I've basically run out of time and my soul is torn to shreds, it's over for me but not you.

I know precisely what will happen, Jessica will come in next week and we'll talk abit, she'll be busy as usual and tell me about it. She might ask how I was over the weekend and I'll say "oh fine, I didn't really do much" (which is the understatement of the century) an then she'll leave. She might smile and comment my smile is mischevious again. In the end nothing will happen because I am NOTHING, I have NOTHING, I don't even think I exist anymore. You be the judge.

What this is supposed to do is show everyone here the situation their in is by no means as poor as my own. I still live at home and make 11.44 an hour, top that! How anyone could ever care or concern themselves over me is beyond logic, beyond reason, it's simply IMPOSSIBLE. I can go on and on so why don't you comment and try using words to communicate opinions. Here's a little poem to make you even more glum:

"Dark nites flow through hand in hand towards an abyss I feel within my heart, but the soul I once knew is frail an weak, beyond imagining or even dreams. Never to know the part of myself others can find so easily within, I die a little each day with passing time never gratifying the pain."

November 16, 2007

Listen hun, i can see how bad and insecure it must make you feel and how long it has made you feel this way. Two of my male friends both in their mid twenties are virgins and hate themselves for it and think they're abnormal. Truth is they're the two loveliest guys i know, there's nothing wrong with either of them physically or mentally they both just lack confidence in a big way. It isn't the end of the world, you won't feel like this forever and it will happen for you. You just need to keep reminding yourself that otherwise you'll sink down with it. I think a guy being a virgin in his twenties is a lovely and nice rare thing, the majority of men nowadays will sleep with anything that has a pulse or anything that has a vagina...or hole of some sort including animals. Be proud and glad you're not one of them. There are far worse things out there!

November 16, 2007

I think a guy being a virgin in his twenties is a lovely and nice rare thing, the majority of men nowadays will sleep with anything that has a pulse or anything that has a vagina...

Translation = "I wouldn't sleep with you but I know some girl.......... somewhere.......... maybe... would, eventually."

November 16, 2007

Being a virgin = ok.

Being a snarky b*tch = not ok.

Lose the attitude, stop oozing desperation, stop being attracted to girls who just like attention (you know you are), and just face everyday as its own thing.

Guys like you who can keep faith end up with wonderful caring women who actually love them.

Or don't, and become bitter. Your choice.

November 16, 2007

Translation = Stop feeling sorry for yourself and exuding self-pity and perhaps you may be someone the ladies become attracted to.

November 16, 2007

Translation = Stop feeling sorry for yourself and exuding self-pity and perhaps you may be someone the ladies become attracted to.

Translation = "I hate guys like you because you're weak and pathetic losers, go get laid already."

November 16, 2007

Being a snarky b*tch = not ok.

Translation = "Stop being someone I don't understand."

November 16, 2007

Translation = "Stop being someone I don't understand."

Wrong and wrong. You're making assumptions.

I understand self-pity and then some. I understand loneliness, and rejection for no good reason. Been there, done that, and if I learned anything, it's that the bitter attitude is actually far more unattractive than anything else.

In fact, just about everyone understands what you're saying- don't even begin to think you're unique, or that your situation isn't common.

Problem is, you're being a d*ck about it. And that's pretty repugnant.

But if you don't wanna change, don't want to consider you might be giving off an attitude that is unattractive, then stop whining, get a hooker, hate women & people & whoever, and live your life at an emotional distance.

November 16, 2007

it looks like you see women very 1 dimensionally, "she's was cute/hot etc..."

you never really mention what you thought about them other than what they looked like. do you ever hit on girls that are not the most attractive in the room? do you see those perfectly nice girls that aren't demanding attention?

here's a news flash, every guy that has hit on my out of the blue i have rejected. it's awkward, you get put on the spot and you really know nothing about the guy. why would i agree to go meet alone with someone i've known for 10 minutes? you can't go from stranger to boyfriend in that time. i know it's been a long time for you already, but a relationship still requires the investment of time.

it would probably do you a lot of good to have one of those girls as just a friend, most good relationships develop from friendships. if you're a good friend with a girl and not just talking to her to get in her pants or playing the nice sensitive guy and aiming for the same result, then she might actually like you, or have a friend that does!

if you believe that there is someone who should like you just the way you are, then you're going to have a problem. though, i'm not saying change yourself for someone else.

try this perspective.... an angry woman who hates any man that doesn't like her is chatting and hitting on you, you decline and she gets into a funk and reiterates that all men care about are appearances and there must be something wrong with them to not like her for who she is, she'd seem like a pretty ugly person wouldn't she?

November 16, 2007

I don't have any advice for you, but your life story is by no means unique.

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 35.

High school was a series of wanting girls who wanted guys who were cooler, and "more mature" (read: had a car and a letter jacket). Nothing better to do, I studied.

College was an experiment in trying to be cool, partying, drinking, and finding that there's always someone the girls wanted more than you. Nothing better to do, I worked out.

Work was filled with women you didn't want or women already taken. Nothing better to do, I made money.

So here I finally was: smart, physically fit, and with a decent income. But my experiences with the opposite sex left me bitter, slightly misogynistic (i.e., woman-hating), yet addicted to porn (since I couldn't have the real thing).

I was surprised when it finally happened. I have a feeling you might be too.

November 16, 2007

I don't have any advice for you, but your life story is by no means unique.

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 35.

High school was a series of wanting girls who wanted guys who were cooler, and "more mature" (read: had a car and a letter jacket). Nothing better to do, I studied.

College was an experiment in trying to be cool, partying, drinking, and finding that there's always someone the girls wanted more than you. Nothing better to do, I worked out.

Work was filled with women you didn't want or women already taken. Nothing better to do, I made money.

So here I finally was: smart, physically fit, and with a decent income. But my experiences with the opposite sex left me bitter, slightly misogynistic (i.e., woman-hating), yet addicted to porn (since I couldn't have the real thing).

I was surprised when it finally happened. I have a feeling you might be too.

I concur with your statements here, you are wise :S~

As always everything is meaningless and unimportant. Now for the other comments you are all true, the fact is I am not unique, I am utterly and completely worthless and have no purpose in this world, that is the way it is

Unfortunately treating women in the way you all describe is what this fellow did http://desperateguy.blogspot.com/ and he still lost his wife because she didn't love him, they were only ever friends according to her. This is what you get when you are friends first and lovers second, a women telling you how marrying you was wrong once you loose the kooshy job and going after a doctor. Thanks but tell this guy he's wrong.

November 16, 2007

Unfortunately treating women in the way you all describe is what this fellow did http://desperateguy.blogspot.com/ and he still lost his wife because she didn't love him, they were only ever friends according to her. This is what you get when you are friends first and lovers second, a women telling you how marrying you was wrong once you loose the kooshy job and going after a doctor. Thanks but tell this guy he's wrong.

Oh, well why didn't you say so?

One example obviously proves this as the end-all truth!

November 16, 2007

Unfortunately treating women in the way you all describe is what this fellow did http://desperateguy.blogspot.com/ and he still lost his wife because she didn't love him, they were only ever friends according to her.

Thanks for the link. Very entertaining blog. Resembles the escapades of this other LS poster, DateAnalyzer (one and the same? hmmm). Also very entertaining--no joke!

Joining a monastery is always an option...

November 16, 2007

Unfortunately that poor fellows blog is a story of how women abuse men for pleasure. His ex-wife married him when his career was still strong, then when it went south and the money was not coming in their home was to expensive, they ended up selling it but just some time before that she called him on her cell phone and said it was over. He was really confused and disoriented, then figured it out. They talked and she told him "we were really just friends not lovers". So she ****s her friends does she? For years they were happily married, then he loses some cash and she runs for a chiropractor that treats her like trash, but that's ok as long as he's rich.

November 16, 2007

So you were jsut sharing with us someone elses situation?

November 16, 2007

So you were jsut sharing with us someone elses situation?

No, we're talking about the link I posted to that guys blog, I was discussing that. My post is original and applies to me though.

And an update on that, this new girl Jessica came in today and sent more stuff out, this time the girl was wearing a cuter outfit and seemed semi-quiet. I asked how things were and she spoke but not as much. I inquired what she was doing on the weekend and she said nothing. I liked her but now I'm over it, she said she's going to dance tonite with her girlfriends and stuff, hip hop or country, something. Of course men will be all over her and honestly I can't compete since I'm a complete failure and loser, I shalln't try. Infact this just makes me feel more secure in my current situation as a worthless human being that has no real future or present, at least I know this and am not self deluded.

Jessica can go out and drink, have fun dancing, etc. I will continue being nothing and when I see her again I won't say much, I cannot exert such energy on pointless endevours. I'll post here more as my pathetic life reveals itself more I hope this brings you all some joy by showing you my sick life.

You say others live like this? That I'm not unique? It's hard to believe, lol I don't think anyone lives this way it's just you cannot understand it is all.

November 16, 2007

You say others live like this? That I'm not unique? It's hard to believe, lol I don't think anyone lives this way it's just you cannot understand it is all.

Do a search here for posts by RossK.

November 16, 2007

Do a search here for posts by RossK.

Yes, I love cats btw

Update: I did a search for the user RossK but nothing came up?

November 17, 2007

Yes, I love cats btw

Update: I did a search for the user RossK but nothing came up?

hm, well, he sounded a lot like you- shirked all levels of advice, from sympathetic, to logical, to aggressive.

If you've come here, on some level you want advice from neutral parties. I urge you to pay attention to it, no matter how much your inner self rebels against it, or how angry it makes you.

November 17, 2007

Translation = "I hate guys like you because you're weak and pathetic losers, go get laid already."

Again, stop feeling sorry for yourself because no one else will with your attitude. Being a "sorry" person is not what's going to attract potential partners. Nor is being needy. Both are turn-offs, bit time.

Translation=Get thee either to a counselor or to an abby!

November 19, 2007

At first I thought you were just very sarcastic, but now.....I just think you are being a jerk.

Here is probably the time that you will say that you are worthless, everything sucks or I just don't understand.

Really, all you have to do is stop feeling sorry for yourself (have ya read that before, I don't know, seems kinda familiar...)and stop being a jerk(and that is putting it nicely) and maybe some girl will WANT to engage in something with you.

But until then, the poor attitude/b****y responses will get you NOWHERE with the ladies. Or anyone, for that matter, as I believe you have also complained of no friends.

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