goodguy15 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 My girlfriend and I been dating about 2 years now and as soon as the date goes towards the end of it.She always tells me she doesn't want me to leave but I cant stay because that will be a temptation and I'm not ready to stay overnight.She likes to hug me alot but I'm not used to of all the attention from a girlfriend because I never had that from anybody before.But How do I get over my insecurities because of it, plus i can't hold hands with anymore because she thinks that I'm hers but how can I be hers when we're not engaged or married?And one more thing I'm not sexually attracted to her because she's not physically attractive because of her disability How do you stay attractive to a person that doesn't have physical attributes like most women have? For example a nice smile nice skin nice butt and boobs and I liked to be attracted to women that are very nice looking with a great personality and the gf that i have doesn't even come close and she says to me when i see cheerleaders and says i'm sorry that i can't be that skinny and I'm like thanks alot for pointing that out to me.Why are some guys so lucky to have a gf thats very pretty lookin like Carrie Underwood.I mean come on now.I did have a girl as a friend and I was attracted to her because I thought she was a babe and she hungout with me alot but she didn't see me more than a friend in which sucked. Let me know what you gals or guys think?
curiousnycgirl Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 You need to set this girl free. You are stringing her along but clearly you have no intention of allowing the relationship to go any further. If you are not attracted to her, why are you dating her at all? Your post implies that you don't fell you can attract anyone better. You are not being fair to this woman - and frankly your treatment of her sucks.
allina Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Sorry, I'm a little confused. You have a gf of two years that you have never been been physical with and have no desire to be? She has a disability that makes her "unattractive" and you seem to resent her for it? What do you want from her?
Enema Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 she says to me when i see cheerleaders and says i'm sorry that i can't be that skinny and I'm like thanks alot for pointing that out to me. ^^ Possibly the funniest thing I have ever read. LOL.
spookie Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 You should break up with her and get some help. You sound like you are confused about a variety of personal issues. A therapist can help with that. Your gf really doesn't deserve to be with someone who's only with her because he doesn't think he can do better.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 You need to set this girl free. You are stringing her along but clearly you have no intention of allowing the relationship to go any further. If you are not attracted to her, why are you dating her at all? Your post implies that you don't fell you can attract anyone better. You are not being fair to this woman - and frankly your treatment of her sucks. When we first met we didn't even know if we were going to date and she told me I met a new friend or what not then a few months later we started dating.I told her I loved her and I didn't really mean it because I didn't know if she was joking with me.And I felt it it at the time.So it all started there.At first she is attractive but after a while I realized something I never knew about myself that she wasn't that attractive anymore or something happned in this relationship that I can't figure out yet.If you're sexually attacted to the person for that matter how can I have sex if I'm not but I'm attracted to better looking women?But it seems i can't have what i want and its pathetic.I'm not sure why I even have her in the first place.She knows me so well that it's starting to annoy me.She tells me I treat her perfect like no other guy shes ever had and I can't seem to look past those faults of her.Plus I never dated anybody with physical disability.I don't understand as of right now.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 Sorry, I'm a little confused. You have a gf of two years that you have never been been physical with and have no desire to be? She has a disability that makes her "unattractive" and you seem to resent her for it? What do you want from her? I don't know what i want from her, I just want to be happier with my situation that i'm dealing with.But how can i be happy she can't do something like a normal girl can do different positions but if we get married someday then how is it going to workout because she can't do somethings like a non physical disablilty person can do and thats alot for me to deal with.Because I can do it but she can't do it.
allina Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 I don't know what i want from her, I just want to be happier with my situation that i'm dealing with.But how can i be happy she can't do something like a normal girl can do different positions but if we get married someday then how is it going to workout because she can't do somethings like a non physical disablilty person can do and thats alot for me to deal with.Because I can do it but she can't do it. Why would you marry her, you don't even love her? I'm not sure if I remember correctly but you have a disability as well, yes? In that case you should be more understanding, this isn't anything she can help. I still don't understand why you're with her, you're very unclear about things. Are you a young couple? Is she upset that you haven't touched her in two years? Why are you still together? Sorry, I'm not understanding a few things here.
Author goodguy15 Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 Why would you marry her, you don't even love her? I'm not sure if I remember correctly but you have a disability as well, yes? In that case you should be more understanding, this isn't anything she can help. I still don't understand why you're with her, you're very unclear about things. Are you a young couple? Is she upset that you haven't touched her in two years? Why are you still together? Sorry, I'm not understanding a few things here. Yes, we're both the same age 27 and 2 weeks apart.I have touched her for 2 years eveytime we dated every week and we watch movies together we cuddle and stuff things to that nature.But she always kissing and shes always making a move on me but I'm takes me a while to kiss her back.But sometimes I dont want to and she gets mad at me about it but she forgives me but thinking she wants to keep it out going no matter the circumstances plus I lost 2 jobs in the past year which wasn't fun but she was supportive of me which is a good thing because i need it.We still together because we've been through alot together and shes thinkin why stop now if we came this far and both of us never had a 2 year relationship so it's still new for the both of us.Including me because I don't know how to handle certain situations or what to say to her when she asksl me what are you thinking all the time which gets old it's not like i ask her that constantly.And we're very slow in this relationship and no hurry to get married things for that matter.I'm sorry that i've been sounding like a jerk.
LN99 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 You need to let her go. If you aren't attracted to her, then why do you even bother dating her? I think your doing it because you just want someone in your life. Thats hardly a reason to date someone....let alone be serious with someone. You obviously aren't into her, and she sounds like she is very into you. Do her a favor and end things with her. Let her find a guy who desires her and likes her for herself and isn't wasting her time/leading her on. As for you wanting someone like Carrie Underwood.... Good luck with that!
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