wowIlose Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Oh guys, I just got home from a friends birthday party!... Met a really nice girl tonight, we danced, we kissed, I got her number, she was super into me... I've never been happier lol.. given I am a little drunk right now but wow did that ever help the coping process of my break up. I am gonna give her a call in a week to go out for some coffee.. Woot! What a wondeful night! Cheers.. bed time, work in 5 hours haha...
frd150 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 YeaHHHH BoYYYYY! Good for you man. Hope she looks the same when your sober:D.
heartoutside Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 This is from Smoke'n aces the movie, sums up beer goggles nicely "Damn girl, you just went from Beyonc to Bigfoot in less than 6 hours."
Author wowIlose Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 lol @ my post... but yea I met her before I started drinking. She added me to facebook this morning, I'll accept it tomorrow haha.. I am to busy right now But honestly, that helped me tremendously, made me feel better.
niceguy27 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Haha. All the advice we give each other here I love to hear stuff like this: "Dont add her at all." See how we can learn from our ex's?? lol. I'll remember that one for a while. Gave me a good chuckle. All the strategies weve all used to help us (NC, making them wait for return calls, etc.) makes us so less likely to just jump when the opposite sex comes around. Good luck with the new girl!
frd150 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 lol @ my post... but yea I met her before I started drinking. She added me to facebook this morning, I'll accept it tomorrow haha.. I am to busy right now But honestly, that helped me tremendously, made me feel better. Well, Good. Im stoked for you. Keep us posted. Good ole facebook...
heartoutside Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 i was kind of joking and kind of serious about adding her to facebook. Just look what I'm going through now....WoW have you deleted your ex yet from facebook? Just use caution....
lovesparis Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 why are you going to wait a week to call her?
birdie Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Haha. All the advice we give each other here I love to hear stuff like this: "Dont add her at all." See how we can learn from our ex's?? lol. I'll remember that one for a while. Gave me a good chuckle. All the strategies weve all used to help us (NC, making them wait for return calls, etc.) makes us so less likely to just jump when the opposite sex comes around. Good luck with the new girl! ... and then when a little bit more time passes and you are more confident in yourself, you realise there is no need for games and making people wait. you reply to messages straight away if you can or you don't talk to them at all if you don't want to. no strategies, just take it as it comes. THAT is when you are being yourself and you learnt your lessons. and don't wait a week to call, she might lose interest. I get suspicious of men that have to wait ages because it means they are not confident enough
cant let go Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 i didn't see wow say anywhere in his post that "waiting a week to call" was a strategy. maybe he's just going to be busy. and even if it is...i think it is a good idea regardless. giving yourself and the person you meet a few days to a week to react to your impressions is much smarter than acting immediately on an impulse that may just be lustblindness. being honest and not playing games is important, but being cautious is especially important when a tender heart is at stake.
heartoutside Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 I agree w/ can't let go, that waiting some time before contacting someone can be a good thing. But in this case, I think it's a game....
Trialbyfire Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 ... and then when a little bit more time passes and you are more confident in yourself, you realise there is no need for games and making people wait. you reply to messages straight away if you can or you don't talk to them at all if you don't want to. no strategies, just take it as it comes. THAT is when you are being yourself and you learnt your lessons. and don't wait a week to call, she might lose interest. I get suspicious of men that have to wait ages because it means they are not confident enough How true is this? If a girl needs games to keep her interested, she's not worth your time.
niceguy27 Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Oh yeah. Just be straight with her. If your busy and it takes a few days to get back to her, thats cool. If you have time to call her, pick it up and call. That was what I meant by that...After dealing with an ex and going through all the motions, you do come out for the better thus equaling more confidence. You are less likely to want to play games or beat around the bush. You know exactly what you want from someone. I hate games as much as anyone else and if someone I meet doesnt accept me for who I am, theyre not worth my time.
sedgwick Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Oh god, please, take it from me as someone who is never going to date again because I can't even bear the thought of going through the rejection one more time: just CALL HER. Just be straight with her. I would give damn near anything in the world for a guy to let me know he's interested, let me know he thinks something of me, not be afraid of not being "cool"...oh god, I'd give ANYTHING!! I see in retrospect that I should have been playing some kind of games to keep my ex -- I should have pretended not to be so into him, etc. I guess that's the stuff men need to get them to like women. But if a guy just told me he liked me and asked me out and didn't play any games and that was that? Damn, I'd probably marry him.
Author wowIlose Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 ok guys, I caved and gave her a text yesterday for coffee THIS sunday. She sent me a text saying "Hey . might be able to do that. depending how much homework i get done tommorow. I'll let you know" Oh well, I didn't respond.. Ball in her court now. But to me that sounds like a rejection haha.. next girl I'll wait one more day and grow some balls and call I'll post again if she actually does let me know but I am going NC now :P hahah.. p.s. 3 weeks NC with EX today. Also I wasn't actually trying to playg games, it was either this weekend or next weekend(because I am busy with work and gym on weekdays and shes at school remember?)
Trialbyfire Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 That's not a rejection. She's gaming you. Move on...
tinke Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 text mess.? what?? what happened to good old fashion social interraction? part of someone's attraction (and memories) is their voice...that's what she will remember..your tone, etc. if you truly are interested, let her know she is worth the actual phone call. yes, it may be putting yourself out there, but again, that is the message she will receive also..that you are putting out the effort. good for you..keep going.
Author wowIlose Posted November 18, 2007 Author Posted November 18, 2007 yes I made a mistake.. live and learn. Like I said next time I'll grow some balls, call and be an extra day more patient for better results lol. btw I texted her back with "don worry bout it. My day is stacked as is". Moving on.. hate games.
tinke Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 she may not have been blowing you off..maybe she did have homework, maybe she is waiting to see if you are invested in wanting to meet with her. no games... if you are interested, why not wait a few days and call her for the next wknd.?
Author wowIlose Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 i suppose ur right. Nothing to lose.
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