shadowplay Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 It looks like I may be in a relationship that is long distance for the forseeable future. My boyfriend and I have been long distance all fall, and we were supposed to be in the same city come January. But now circumstances are such that there's a better than fifty percent chance we'll remain long distance. Since we only live about 5 hours apart, he comes up every weekend. But I'm starting to get fed up with having a weekend boyfriend. It's like Chinese water torture. We're at that giddy in love phase in a relationship where people who were in close proximity would be spending most of their time together. Instead I get an intensely euphoric couple of days with him and then have to pine away for five days. It's driving me nuts, and every week it seems to get harder. Even when I try to busy myself with other things, the pain of missing him is all I can think about. It's so bad that I don't know if I could handle it long term. It seems even worse now with no end in sight. My question is would it be reasonable for me to break up with somebody for this reason, or should I do my best to make it work? Like is the amount of suffering I'd have to endure greater than what I'd gain by being with him under these circumstances? I spoke about this with my mother (a psychologist), and she said if I really loved him I wouldn't be tempted to break up with him over this. But I disagree. It's the fact that I love him that makes it so agonizing to be deprived of him most of the week. I just don't know if it's worth it. I feel lost and stuck...
Aussie65 Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 I am thinking the same thing..My boyfriend moved away almost a month ago now and it's consuming my life!I had my first panic attack...I can't sleep,I am tired all the time,my mind is constantly on him!I am suffering anxiety to a point it's so overwhelming....I am making myself sick all because my man decided to move!. I am seriously thinking also if it's worth it,today I questioned it all thinking there would be someone out there for me that would not move away....that would not be putting me through this.I need someone by my side...someone to eat dinner with,someone to hold my hand and talk with at night....someone there for me when I need them most..I love him to bits but I found myself so confused I am now questioning if it is all worth my health...the worry,the stress...the confusion!. Good luck...honestly,I am where you are.My posts are on the LDR board so check in on my vents sometime and let me know how things are with you.
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