Monty P Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 I mean EXTREME BUDGET. I have a post up about a girl I am currently pursuing. This is partly about that situation, but also just a general thing. Budget as in, at the time of this post I have $5.00 in my pocket which is going for fuel in my car tomorrow. My rent is paid, but barely, and have no idea where my next influx of spendable cash will be coming from. I am still still trying to figure out the situation with the girl and I'm sure part of my problem (at least on my side) is the fact that I can't afford to actually go out and do anything. She knows I an not rich but doesn't know how broke I actually am. I don't plan on telling her this any time soon. I haven't asked her to go out for a night in over a month. I don't want her to think I am loosing interest, but I am running out of ideas on how to handle this. She has been pretty busy herself with work and school an all, so it hasn't been too bad but.... The question being, not just to my problem necessarily, but in general. How does one handle dating on a budget?
Star Gazer Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 How's about a picnic? Free outdoor concert? Here in NorCal we have Apple Hill, kinda cheesy but fun and FREE (for the most part), do you have something like that around your parts? I'm sure there's stuff to do in your community, ya just gotta look.
underpants Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 There are a million free ways to whoo your intended. As Star suggested a free concert in the park. One of my most memorable dates was a walk along the city sidewalks chatting and looking at the Christmas lights. If you want a creative free idea you could arrange a scavenger hunt. Ha, make her accumulate all the ingredients for a dinner that you cook for her. Money saver, creative...and thoughtful. Challenge her to a scrabble war.
Author Monty P Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 Personal note..WOOHOO... I just figured out the multi quote:laugh: yay me..lol.. How's about a picnic? Free outdoor concert? Here in NorCal we have Apple Hill, kinda cheesy but fun and FREE (for the most part), do you have something like that around your parts? I'm sure there's stuff to do in your community, ya just gotta look. Thanks both for your responses, I wasen't expecting any so quickly. As to the free concerts and all, their are a few things arround here like that. Unfortunatly, at least where I am at, once the snow starts everything else seems to stop. I'm sure their still things going on and I will be keeping my eyes open. There are a million free ways to whoo your intended. If you want a creative free idea you could arrange a scavenger hunt. Ha, make her accumulate all the ingredients for a dinner that you cook for her. Money saver, creative...and thoughtful. I like that idea. I have always wanted to try and set something like that up, but never thought about doing it as a dinner idea.
Star Gazer Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Snow = sledding or inner tubing. Christmas-light looking. Poetry readings. I really like the scavenger hunt idea...
Trialbyfire Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Skating on a frozen pond or outdoor rink. Walking through the snow or if you're more active, challenge her to a fort-making/snowball fight. I love the scrabble idea but make it a theme. The language of love can be as sweet or as seductive as you want it to be, especially by romantic candlelight.
Timberlane Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Hoo, boy. I sympathize. Just tell her you miscalculated some bills you had to pay all at once and that you're going to be short until the next paycheck. Everyone runs into that sometimes. That will take a lot of pressure off of you and she'll know what to expect out of the date. Tell her you were going to just wait until you get paid to do something together, but just couldn't wait because she is so cool.
Author Monty P Posted November 16, 2007 Author Posted November 16, 2007 Hoo, boy. I sympathize. Just tell her you miscalculated some bills you had to pay all at once and that you're going to be short until the next paycheck. Everyone runs into that sometimes. That will take a lot of pressure off of you and she'll know what to expect out of the date. Tell her you were going to just wait until you get paid to do something together, but just couldn't wait because she is so cool. Thanks, I will remember that. Two votes for scrabble, hmm, I havent played that in a while but I think I remember how.
underpants Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 If you have the scrabble board (or access to one). If you do the scavanger hunt dinner idea. Then when she shows up at your place have the game already set up with a cute little message to her spelled out on it.
Dynamo Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Just remember: If she really likes you for you, then she should just enjoy spending time with you - Every date doesn't have to be a big event at a 5 star resteraunt with the band playing her favorite classic (although I'm sure that would make an amazing date). Simple things can, in a lot of ways, be better then the big, extravagant and usually expensive dates. Not to mention they tend to make more laughs and become more memorable! Some great suggestions in this thread. Have fun!
Author Monty P Posted November 17, 2007 Author Posted November 17, 2007 Thanks Dynamo, I do agree with that. Luckily, she is like me, being that she usually seems happy just hittin' the local watering hole for one or two most nights.
shenandoah Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 The interesting thing is, that at no point when any guy has asked me out, have i considered "how much does it cost" the only date i can remember going on right now, if you were to ask me, was with one of my exes where he picked me up and we walked round an old abbey and round a deer park. it was great because i wasn't under any pressure it was just walking and talkin y'know and it was nice. Sometimes money means no lack of imagination- if a guy takes me out to fancy restaurant i almost feel guilty like "oh god, now theyve spent all this cash on me!" if its a free, thoughtful date, it's no pressure. Thinking about my current "fancy"... ideal date? somewhere wintery, a walk, a forest, a fire....some stars...? Money doesn't even come into it- the free thoughtful dates are the best! good luck- shes very lucky to have somebody like you who is even worried about it- a lot of guys ive dated don't even care, letalone worry about it! x
huh Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Indoor activities, check out the local library/bookstore for author readings. Does your local museum have a day that's free or you can donate what you like? How about cooking dinner for her at your place? Provided your at the stage where you feel comfortable going to each other's places. Also, why you don't have to go into details, you can explain that your straightening out your finances/on a budget.
Lizzie60 Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 1) cook a nice dinner... pasta (cheap) with candles and soft music... 2) walk 3) visit to the library together 4) cuddling while watching a movie 5) board games, cards... 6) window shopping... just walk in the mall looking and commenting on stuff... All these ideas will allow both of you to get to know each other and you won't have to spend much money.
Author Monty P Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 Thanks to all for your replies so far. We are not actually "dating" yet but I am working on her and I think I am wearing her down..lol... We have been friends for many years so at least I don't have to worry about the "normal" getting to know each other dates. These are some great ideas so far and I will be trying alot of them both pre and (hopefully) post first date. Thanks again, and I am always open for more ideas.
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