t7lee Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Hi, I am new to this community, and I need all the support that I can get right now. I've been reading through the forums of LS lately, and I really appreciate the sharing of knowledge people are providing here. Now on to my story... I've known this girl for about 4 months now. She speaks purely spanish and can speak a little bit of english. However, she can comprehend what I say most of the time. I've met her whole entire family meaning I've met her dad, step-mom, uncle, aunt, and grandma. Her mom and dad, from what I can tell, seems to like me. She is 22 and I am 26. She is a Christian, and I am not. She goes to church service 3 times out of the week, and church is REALLY important to her. She works at the office right next to mines. She currently has issues at home such as not getting along with her step-mom and her dad which she is currently situated at. Now on to our relationship... While we were dating we had our good times, and our bad times. During these times I've told her three times "I don't think it's going to work out between us..." and the reason why I said such thing is because I didn't feel as though she is making enough time for me. I've confronted her about this and she has later made more time for me. At first I also spent time with her at the church where she goes to, but as time progressed I've stopped going with her. Last friday I told her that it was really important that she meets my parents, and she told me that she needed to get permission from her dad. Then saturday came, and I called to verify that she did indeed get permission from her dad. Unfortunately, her dad did not give her permission, and that is where I was frustrated and told her again for the fourth time "I don't think this is going to work out between us...". Then she changed the topic and goes to tell me that church is important to her, and that I am not going with her as frequently. At this point I was pretty angry, and told her: "Your a church fanatic! Your crazy! You don't have to go to church to be happy! I want a woman and not a girl!" As you can see, things went downhill from there on. She then told me that I am right and that things are not going to work out because we are just too different. Thursday comes along, and I apologized for what I have said and that I did not mean to say such things. I begged, cried, pleaded for her to get back with me. She told me that she no longer trust me, and that without trust a relationship is just not possible. She told me that she has already made up her mind and that she can no longer go back in to a relationship with me. On saturday, I dropped by her home to bring some flowers and I knew she was not at home at that time. I gave the flowers to her step-mom, and to make matters worst I told her step-mom everything and what went on between us. On Sunday, I received a pretty nast text stating, "Why did you have to talk to my step-mom about our situation? You have friends that you can talk to. You already told the world about us! I don't know how you think we can get back together if you do things like that!". I was devastated when she wrote that. I called her to apologize, but she told me that she was at church and couldn't talk. Monday comes along, and it was my birthday. I was sitting in my office, and I saw her coming out of the elevator and she sees me and motions me to come to her. As I walked up to her I tried to apologize, but she stopped me from apologizing and just opened up her arms to give me a hug. As we hugged she whispered "Happy Birthdy". After that she just left. I have yet to receive any text messages from her, and I have yet to text her anything as I am trying NC. What should I do? Is there still any hope left for me? Thank you everybody for the support and the knowledge.
honey001 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 It sounds like she was looking for you to support her as well 'if you loved her, 'instead of getting angry with her for going to church you should have supported her, religon is a big thing to certain cultures, and maybe all she wanted was you to understand that' atleast she wasnt going out partying and being crazy' Im not trying to sound like im coming down on you' but most races religon places a big role in their lives' maybe her wanting you to go to church with her was her way of trying to let you into her life and show you how much it all ment to her 'but you saw it as something that was getting in the way of your relationship'....... Maybe try asking her again? you will either get the answer you want, or the answer that might make you move on 'what doesnt break you makes you stronger' I hope i helped
Author t7lee Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 I know that religion is important for many cultures. When I was brought up my family never went to church nor even know who God/Jesus Christ is. I told her to give me time to find out who God is. For me to see what a Christian life entails. I told her that if I was going to become a Christian that I would do it on my own will not because I want to get back with her. However, she don't believe me. She told me that I don't have God in my heart, and that we are just way too different. She also said that it would be best that we break up now then later as it will hurt us more later on down the road. Again, thank you guys for all the help. You guys rock!
Author t7lee Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 Well yesterday night I couldn't do it. I broke NC. I text her "Just wanted to tell you good night and sweet dreams!"...no responses from her =(....What should I do?
Geishawhelk Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 You KNOW what you have to do. You just don't want to do it. And you don't feel like hearing it either. MOVE - ON - OK?
Author t7lee Posted November 15, 2007 Author Posted November 15, 2007 before we broke up she told me that she loves me, and i told her that i love her also. after our breakup, i asked her if she still loves me and she said she does. i also asked her if she missed me, and she said she missed me a little. when i see her i can still sense the feelings between us...what should i do? i am crazy for this girl...
Geishawhelk Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 "Insanity is repeating the same thing over and over and hoping for a different result." Just go on as you are. A cracked skull against an unmoveable wall can be treated in hospital anyway.... make sure you change your bandages regularly.....
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