annie77 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Was with my ex BF for 7 years, but we were friends 5 years before that so he's been such a big part of my life. Well, we broke up a little over a year ago and I can't seem to move on with my life. I know it's because after the breakup we never broke contact. We saw each other from time to time, even went out as if we were a couple again. But he's made it clear that he does not want a relationship right now because he's really busy for one, and second, he can't get over the fact that I have a different outlook on him as a cheater (he cheated on me after we got into a huge fight). After that, we reconciled though, but I couldn't get it out of my head which eventually led to him breaking up with me. So basically I've been stupid enough to wait around and see if we end up back together. I had a talk with him about it and he said although he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, he's not saying that we'll never get back together, he's leaving everything open and if things work out, then they will. I should've given up a long time ago but it's been over a year since the breakup and still nothing. So last week I told him that I trained with a guy at some gym. This guy is pretty well known and he's an instructor there, so I was just telling my ex about it. I thought he would be excited that I trained with a "famous" instructor, but total opposite. He hung up on me, e-mailed me calling the worst names saying I f'd the guy and all.... No contact for a week, then I finally broke down and called and he said he's still pissed and doesn't want to talk to me right now. Should I assume that this is it and I'll never hear from him again? I don't know how to move on. I have plenty of friends who I can go out with, I keep myself busy, go to the gym. But as soon as I get home I start crying. Is he gone for good? How do I deal?
thekhris Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Was with my ex BF for 7 years, but we were friends 5 years before that so he's been such a big part of my life. Well, we broke up a little over a year ago and I can't seem to move on with my life. I know it's because after the breakup we never broke contact. We saw each other from time to time, even went out as if we were a couple again. But he's made it clear that he does not want a relationship right now because he's really busy for one, and second, he can't get over the fact that I have a different outlook on him as a cheater (he cheated on me after we got into a huge fight). After that, we reconciled though, but I couldn't get it out of my head which eventually led to him breaking up with me. So basically I've been stupid enough to wait around and see if we end up back together. I had a talk with him about it and he said although he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, he's not saying that we'll never get back together, he's leaving everything open and if things work out, then they will. I should've given up a long time ago but it's been over a year since the breakup and still nothing. So last week I told him that I trained with a guy at some gym. This guy is pretty well known and he's an instructor there, so I was just telling my ex about it. I thought he would be excited that I trained with a "famous" instructor, but total opposite. He hung up on me, e-mailed me calling the worst names saying I f'd the guy and all.... No contact for a week, then I finally broke down and called and he said he's still pissed and doesn't want to talk to me right now. Should I assume that this is it and I'll never hear from him again? I don't know how to move on. I have plenty of friends who I can go out with, I keep myself busy, go to the gym. But as soon as I get home I start crying. Is he gone for good? How do I deal? There is no such thing as easy to move on.. Sometimes it takes 3 months some it takes a year.It all depends on how youre willing to forgert someone.. I'll give you a simple formula I hope youll get it.. New thing = forgetting Forgetting = move on. You wont be able to forget the things that both of you shared until youre not 100 percent willing to forget it. Most oftenly you choose pain rather than letting it go.. But if time comes that youre sick of it, sick of that pain and sick and tired of feeling sorry for youre self...and you realise that you really really want to end that pain.. DO THIS..Put away all the things that reminds you of him burn it or hide it whatever.Second Go out accept new person in youre life,always put in youre mind that not all people in this world is same as youre ex..you have no idea how many guys out there who is dying to meet some one like you.. you have to take chances,,maybe yu will meet the mister wrong again,maybe you will meet the mister right atlast...But Im preety sure you wont be able to meet the right person for you if you wont give him a chance or give youre self a chance.. Go out...Its better to start all over again that lock youre self on the room of hopelesness
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