AtuliaG Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 As a recently separated woman, Ive been going back over my past relationships. I figure if I can figure out why I made each of those "bad" choices, maybe I can figure out what I can do to make a right choice. So the last few months Ive been contacted my ex-boyfriends, the ones who made it to the "almost" category. Ones that lasted a year or more. The first one was easy - he couldnt tell whether I really loved him or not, and was waiting for me to ask him. The second one turned out to be a confused bisexual man, so clearly those red flags that I thought I had imagined were real. The third one I call tonight. I got his number from his sister (who asked his permission to give it). I know from what she said that he's had a rough time the last few years (his daughter died in a car accident). It was a really long time ago, and I just dont quite know what to say, what to ask him. I want to be sensitive to his loss, but the call is primarily a selfish wish to rehash the past. Or more specifically, me and our past relationship. Any one have any ideas? Atulia
Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 As a recently separated woman, Ive been going back over my past relationships. I figure if I can figure out why I made each of those "bad" choices, maybe I can figure out what I can do to make a right choice. Stop trying! The answer doesn't lie with them. It lies with and within you. Reaching back only muddies the water. There's a reason each of them is an ex and that's something probably best left alone and figured out by you without their help or hindrance. Take the time to examine yourself. Don't try to put them under the microscope. As always, just one man's opinion!
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