Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 The karma train continues to roll. Last night my youngest son called. The ex has been living with him and his wife for the past year. It seems that the ex was walking and was hit by a car. She has a shattered left leg, some bleeding in the brain and a bunch of bumps and bruises. They did surgery on her leg to put in some temporary pins and will go in again next week for major, permanent repair. She'll be out of commission for three or four months which is really unfortunate. My son and his wife are expecting their first child next month. Now they also have to take care of the ex. This is not anything I would ever have wished on her.
tinktronik Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Wow ! Although sometimes I consider this as a distant fantasy , I would never wish it on my ex either. Sorry to hear about this. Are you children going to be able to deal with this and a new baby as well?
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Karma really is a biatch. While I would never wish any physical harm to anyone, emotional duress isn't off-limits. I do feel for your son and his wife though. They've got quite a plateful to handle. Is there any possibility for homecare, once the baby's born?
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Sorry to hear about this. Are you children going to be able to deal with this and a new baby as well? Youngest son is the only one of our five children who will really have anything to do with the ex. Idiot that he is, he also quit hius job recently. Just what a rational man does not long after purchasing a home and with an impending birth, right? I'm sure that along with the care and concern for his mother he's gushing is also the "hope" that he can benefit from any settlement she receives if the driver of the car is found to be at fault. Oh, if it sounds as if I don't have much respect for YS, it's true!
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Read below! Son will have plenty of time to attend to her. BLECH!
tinktronik Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Youngest son is the only one of our five children who will really have anything to do with the ex. Idiot that he is, he also quit hius job recently. Just what a rational man does not long after purchasing a home and with an impending birth, right? I'm sure that along with the care and concern for his mother he's gushing is also the "hope" that he can benefit from any settlement she receives if the driver of the car is found to be at fault. Oh, if it sounds as if I don't have much respect for YS, it's true! Thats okay, sounds as if your eyes are open . So, he's not the most likeable person. My sis is much the same way with my mother .I completely understand.
dbtmarley Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 How unfortunate, but as I have said before and I'll say it again. Ex's are like your little finger.... You don't want anything to happen to that little finger, but you sure as hell can live without it. Sound a little disappointed in your son... chea! Don't worry I heard it said everyone finds their niche in life eventually.
2sunny Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 i'm sorry- mainly because if it involves our children and impending burdens - then karma doesn't exactly come into play now does it? be nice - supportive - and the better man that you know you are C=Lion... xo
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 be nice - supportive - and the better man that you know you are C=Lion... xo ...and always have been. But ya know, it isn't always easy!
KittenMoon Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Wow! This is scary! Poor her. Doesn't this kinda stuff scare you though? I understand you don't love her, or much like her, Curm, but it's sad none the less. Last week there was a fire on my ex's (very short) street where two folks died. I was worried sick (I don't know the number he lives at, just the street) until they finally named the victims. Karma is one thing- harm is another. Yuck.
Art_Critic Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Did you pay the driver in cash or by check ?
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Wow! This is scary! Poor her. Doesn't this kinda stuff scare you though? I understand you don't love her, or much like her, Curm, but it's sad none the less. Last week there was a fire on my ex's (very short) street where two folks died. I was worried sick (I don't know the number he lives at, just the street) until they finally named the victims. Karma is one thing- harm is another. Yuck. It's not scary to me. It just is what it is. As for my feelings towards and about her, there really are none. Years ago I finally achieved the blessed state of indifference. I have never wished her any harm, nor would I. I impute value to 25 years of marriage and the fact that we produced five children together. It's just unfortunate that she never did.
littlekitty Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Did you pay the driver in cash or by check ? It's not scary to me. It just is what it is. As for my feelings towards and about her, there really are none. Years ago I finally achieved the blessed state of indifference. I have never wished her any harm, nor would I. I impute value to 25 years of marriage and the fact that we produced five children together. It's just unfortunate that she never did. Karma is a b*tch. And it comes to us all. At least she's relatively well and has someone to look after her. Not too much harm done!
Art_Critic Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Karma is one thing- harm is another. Yuck. I can agree to this... I got the unfortunate chance to witness Karma come back and rear it's ugly head on my Exwife.. She lost her business.. her entire company and had to file bankruptcy.. All after we got divorced.. When we got divorced her company was doing well ( Although I was propping it up somewhat ).. 3.3 mil a year in Gasoline and retail sales (Convenience store/ Gas Station). After she filed she came to me to borrow money for rent/food.. Which I gladly provided for her and her Daughter... Years later she never fully rebounded.. lives in a different state and is a cashier at a Walmart.. It hurt me to watch her go thru that kind or reorganization of her life.. As much as I didn't care for her I cared what happened to her..
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Did you pay the driver in cash or by check ? Unmarked bills, staggered installment plan over a ten year period, of which the last installment was withheld due to the lack of cessation. The last thing you want to do is to leave some form of audit trail.
KittenMoon Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 I can agree to this... I got the unfortunate chance to witness Karma come back and rear it's ugly head on my Exwife.. She lost her business.. her entire company and had to file bankruptcy.. All after we got divorced.. When we got divorced her company was doing well ( Although I was propping it up somewhat ).. 3.3 mil a year in Gasoline and retail sales (Convenience store/ Gas Station). After she filed she came to me to borrow money for rent/food.. Which I gladly provided for her and her Daughter... Years later she never fully rebounded.. lives in a different state and is a cashier at a Walmart.. It hurt me to watch her go thru that kind or reorganization of her life.. As much as I didn't care for her I cared what happened to her.. See, this, I'd just be like "Sucks to be you!" When my ex ditched me for no real reason, he was a slave to his job and hated it. He's said a million times he's looking for something else, working on new degrees, new jobs, etc. And he feared his parent's opinion of him & his life. Almost two years later.... he's still a slave to his job, unhappy in it, unhappy in his career, no new degrees, and is still saying he's looking for something else. Oh, and he's still fearing his parents' opinion of him (he's 28). IMO, he got rid of the best thing he had going for him...me!
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Unmarked bills, staggered installment plan over a ten year period, of which the last installment was withheld due to the lack of cessation. The last thing you want to do is to leave some form of audit trail. You weren't supposed to tell!
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 You weren't supposed to tell! Sorry. I rescind it all, for 12 easy installments of...
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Sorry. I rescind it all, for 12 easy installments of... and "..." is about what's available!
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 It hurt me to watch her go thru that kind or reorganization of her life.. As much as I didn't care for her I cared what happened to her.. I don't care FOR her but I do care ABOUT her. After all, 25 years of marriage, good-bad-or-indifferent and five children should count for something, shouldn't it, even if it's only to you?
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 and "..." is about what's available! I have to get my final installment somehow. Oh, btw, do you know a good garage mechanic that can hammer out indentations?
Author Curmudgeon Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 I have to get my final installment somehow. Oh, btw, do you know a good garage mechanic that can hammer out indentations? ...we can probably negotiate some form of settlement to the mutual satisfaction of both. I'm not bad at taking care of and hammering "indentations."
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 ...we can probably negotiate some form of settlement to the mutual satisfaction of both. I'm not bad at taking care of and hammering "indentations." You win!!
abeliever Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 OMG, that is soooo funny. But they are right Karma is a biotch!!!!! Although the kids suffer that is not so good. Anyway, glad karma showed up for you. Let's hope he/she comes around for me someday soon so I can see it. abeliever
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