Why does dating ex-girlfriend flirt with me but wants to be "friends"?

[daveycool75]

So I broke up with my girlfriend a little over 3 months ago. We were together about 8-9 months and pretty serious thinking about moving in together. She took a job with an opposite schedule and I got very possessive of her time basically became too clingy and selfish so she broke it off understandable.

Needless to say I am still hung up on her big time. So we play soccer together and occasionally hang out and she always comments how much fun she has with me etc. She is touchy and flirty.

 

She started dating this complete tool about a month ago and went out of her way to rub it in my face. He is a manager of a strip club (and has a kid which in my opinion makes him a terrible parent) he seems insecure is shorter then her and is frankly ugly. I am ten times the man this guy is but he treats her like a princess. (which we all know won't last) She is beautiful and I thought loved herself. Not so sure now.

 

So I tried to get her back 1 month no contact then we met up I was always very flirty and so was she we had a great time but she kept me at a distance.

 

So I recently told her I was seeing someone and the next two times we hang out she pours it on. Very touch flirty. Then the weekend of Nov 3rd we work together at first she is a little stand offish then she is touching me a lot. The next day we get off early and hang out (we were working at a music festival) having a great time she bites my arm and shoulder and later she hugs me very closely strandling my leg. Needless to say I got caught up in it. Then on monday it was like a comedown very bummed. When we talk she asks about this other girl.

 

Does anyone know what I should do. I would like to be friends because obviously this guy is a rebound and I still hold hope but at the same time seeing her messes me up. From talking to friends it seems like there are a few possibilites. By the way I never initiate contact and we talk a couple times a week.

 

1. there is a strong chance she is doing this to "hold" onto me to boost her ego. Basically playing me to make herself feel good.

2. She wants to keep me around as a back-up just in case she wants to work things out. (she had a long term bf in the past she broke up with a few times)

3. She has feelings for me still but is confused and doesn't know what to do. (she is stubborn and rebellious)

 

I don't want to miss a possible second chance but don't want to be a punching bag either.

[niceguy27]

If you set yourself a timeline of say 1 month and during that time you two hang out, make it as fun as possible. Show her who you are as the person when you first met. Keep it real fun and exciting. You may see that things might slowly progress back into something more. If after a month of this and she still wont make her mind up, then its time to hit the road and leave her be. Good luck!